While I totally understand your anger about calling your child's bio mom, "mom". Also look at the other side. Not all of us birthmothers are aweful, cruel, drug using, sleeping around, unable to hold a job type of person.
When I placed my second daughter 3 yrs ago into an "open adoption", I knew that there was going to be this strong bond amongst us all. That there would be some sore of "nickname" for me. I was wrong. I am called by my first name. I HATE that. I dont allow my children I parent to call me by my first name. I am "mom" to them. Now I know I am NOT her mom, but what is wrong with having a nickname. Something specail to us all invovled?
Your thoughts? Suggestion?
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I answered the other question about not being comfortable with the idea of "birthmom." I like respecting what the person you are actually referring to likes to be called. I believe in being "PC" which is being polite, caring, and compassionate. So if the caring and polite way to refer to a group of women who placed their children for adoption is "birthmother" then that is what I will use. But if that same group likes firstmom or natural mother...so be it. A name is not just a noun it can be a verb as well. A mom or a dad is an action. That very first action might have been to decide to place you in a situation that is the best possible situation given the circumstances. That decision was most likely made out of love. I also think the other gift is to name that child. I tell my son his birthmother did two things: pick out his parents and name him his beautiful name. Of course she did more as his mom. But
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