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CAN ANYONE HELP ME WITH A DAUGHTER THAT IS ADHD AND WONT LISTEN?

MY DAUGHTER IS ADHD AND OP DEFIANT DISORDER. WE HAVE BEEN SEEING A THERAPIST FOR A WHILE NOW AND IT DOESNT SEEM TO BE HELPING ME. SHE ACTS LIKE A LITTLE ANGEL WHEN IN FRONT OF THEM AND DOCTORS BUT IS A PAIN IN THE BUTT ALL THE OTHER TIME. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING TO STRAIGHTEN HER OUT BUT ITS NOT WORKING. SHE HAS ALWAYS ACTED MORE LIKE A TEENAGER THEN A CHILD. SHE IS VERY SMART AND LOVES TO READ. THE THERAPIST SAID WE ACT MORE LIKE SISTERS THAN MOTHER AND DAUGHTER. IF U CAN HELP PLEASE HELP.

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wildkat6999

Asked by wildkat6999 at 7:48 PM on May. 11, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • well first off, you're her mother not her friend. what you need to do (my younger brother had this) is involve her in something fun, so it doesn't seem like she's going to get a griping. and when you talk to her, talk calm don't yell, cuss, etc. just explain to her what is right and not right. and with op childern and adhd you might have to repeat it a few times. they may not always listen but may look right at. remember stay calm, b/c when you get angry it distracts them and they start wanting to argue.give her a channce to talk too
    Lovin_mybaby5

    Answer by Lovin_mybaby5 at 7:55 PM on May. 11, 2010

  • You really need a parenting class. Rule number one of parenting is to be consistent, always.


     I strongly recomment the book Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves by Naomi Aldort; you can learn more at http://www.naomialdort.com/

    rkoloms

    Answer by rkoloms at 8:14 PM on May. 11, 2010

  • The therapist laid it out to you...there's is help before it gets worse & stop being her friend...
    mom2mybabes

    Answer by mom2mybabes at 3:02 PM on May. 12, 2010

  • The therapist told you what to do. STOP acting like a sister or friend. She needs you to be a PARENT. Set limits and consequences. My friends daughter has ODD, PTSD, ADHD and Bipolar. She has limits, consequences, goes to a counselor and psychiatrist, is on medication. goes to school and has a parent that acts like a parent. It is not always easy, but she is doing a lot better than she was before being medicated. She can function like an almost normal 15 year old.

    Do NOT tell at her. Stay calm, be patient and if she is in a physical mood, then let her get it out. She needs to get the anger out but in a constructive way. She needs to be taught coping skills and stress management. If the therapist isn't working, find a new one. But is sounds like you were given advice, you just have to find ways to follow it. ASK THE THERAPIST. Family therapy will help too.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 8:48 PM on May. 12, 2010

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