I don't see a problem with interracial adoption but I often see people speak out against it, especially when referring to celebrity adoptions. My daughter is biological and she doesn't look like me. Yes, she has her father, who she does look like, but many others have single mothers of another race and absent fathers. I don't see the difference between this and adoption. I have the same responsibilities to teach her about herself and her culture and history and her worth as if I had adopted her. Incidentally, though my husband is half-Mexican, he was raised by two white people as he had a white mother and his white step-father adopted him. Anyway, I'm looking for a response from parents of an adopted child of another race or a child who has had parents who were both of another race.... (cont)
Answer by love2snorkel70 at 5:19 PM on May. 12, 2010
Answer by Bellarose0212 at 5:10 AM on May. 12, 2010
I am not against interracial adoption as much as I can't see why people do it. There are thousands of babies born here in the states everyday that need homes. Most of these children are considered special needs just because they are black. No one is stepping up to adopt them. I really do think we should take care of our own first.
Answer by Anonymous at 6:26 AM on May. 12, 2010
I do have concerns about those who want to enter into a transracial adoption. As a social worker and therapist that part of me has encountered parents who were raising very resentful children. Not just adoptive parents. I worked with several very loving mothers who were raising biological biracial children but were not sensitive to their child's needs. This usually presented itself in those tween/teen years. It was not done intentionally but it doesn't mean that it wasn't there. The parents were opperating on all that matters is love and being color blind. Because it worked, in there opinion, so far (up until they learned it so was not working). It was a shock to know this was a major issue. It was not the presenting issue, ever, for a parent seeking therapy for their child. Yet it unfolded. I have also known foster parents and adoptive parents
Answer by frogdawg at 8:51 AM on May. 12, 2010
who say they are color blind. So they are not giving the recognition that the child wants but doesn't necessarily come out and say it. In private, in session, children have confided to me not being always comfortable. I am for transracial adoptions but I am also wishing more in depth discussions with potential adoptive parents about issues your child may experience, exploring thoughts, feelings, and ideas about race, culture, and ethnicity in our society and our families. I would like to see families discuss where they live, how their immediate family and friends will support them, how they plan to connect to their minority child's culture of orgin, what plans they have for schools, books, movies, art, doctors,.....the list is endless. To be real about if they are truly up for the challenge. And it is a challenge. In a very wonderful and enriching way.
Answer by frogdawg at 8:56 AM on May. 12, 2010
Answer by mcginnisc at 9:23 AM on May. 12, 2010
mcquinnisc, you are right. But people don't want to hear about how there are more adoptions through foster care than in dia or international. They think want they want to think. Many comments on my own son about what a shame so many people do international adoptions. Of course this is under there breath, meant for me to hear but not comment on. So of course I equally respond under my breath but meant for them to hear. In a sing song voice I say..."Black people are born in the United States too." I often get the frustrated comments from people who have strong feelings on international adoption. Sometimes I think it is not worth responding to. Why should it matter if he was born here or across the way? Then again so much racism sometimes in how we perceive what is a family and what it should look like. When your family doesn't match what someone else's view is...they get anoid.
Answer by frogdawg at 11:24 AM on May. 12, 2010
Answer by mcginnisc at 1:54 PM on May. 12, 2010
Answer by Iamgr8teful at 6:09 PM on May. 12, 2010
Answer by SusieQ5782 at 6:26 PM on May. 12, 2010