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have any of you every had problems or knew of somone that hubby would go to

one of those ck and go places to get money or go to one of those title loan places to take out a loan on there auto.
i have a big problem with my hubby he does it all the time and gets us deeper in dedit. him and i have went round and round about this and lots of yelling matches
there should be some kind of law saying that if you are married you have to have your spouse sign the papers to. we live pay ck to pay ck and keeps getting worse all the time. it's like paying paul to pay peter. we never get out of the hole and i do not know what to do. i have already threten to leave him but that does not help. he knows i do not have any ware to go with the kids no family or friends. has any one ever went threw this

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:15 PM on May. 12, 2010 in Money & Work

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  • I know.... it's a horrible cycle.
    Try not to badger him, suggest he try NOT going and see what happens. If it's food you need ask for help, if it's the roof over your head - - that's hard. He just wants to provide and these days paycheck to paycheck doesn't cut it.
    Suggest also that he find a P/T job to bring in some extra cash. Good luck!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:35 PM on May. 12, 2010

  • Put him on a cash allowance. When it runs out it runs out. You should sit down together and figure out how much is coming in and how much is going out. Men for some reason need money in their pockets. So make sure he has a little and make sure he knows when it runs out it runs out. These loan places charge fees that will kill you. Does he understand that if he could skip those fees for a couple of months that he will have more money to spend. Paying the fee is pissing money away.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:24 AM on May. 13, 2010

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