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At what point in your relationship did you meet your SO's parents?

My ex-husband's parents are my godparents and they've known me since I was born so there was never any real introduction there. After I split from my ex I dated a guy who wasn't close to his parents so I never met them during our 4 month relationship, then the next guy never knew his dad and lost his mom several years before we got together so there were no parents to meet. Now I've been with my current SO for 7 months and haven't met his folks yet. Because of other commitments, with work and family, I haven't had the chance to join him for the 2 hour drive to his parent's home the few times he's gone while staying with me. (He only lives here part-time, then stays at his place in CA when he has to work) I'm nervous because first impressions are important and I'd like to meet them first without my kids because I don't want to be yelling and chasing my kids the first time I meet them plus I have this fear that they'll look...

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 8:11 PM on May. 14, 2010 in Relationships

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  • ....down on my "baggage". I'm 24, almost divorced, with 3 small kids. My SO is 37, never married and has no kids. I know his parents like children (his mom is a special ed teacher) and his dad is an attorney who for the last ten years has worked solely on juvenile cases as a defense attorney. I just can't get over that anxious feeling. Anyway once school lets out I'll be taking my kids and staying with my SO for about a month in CA at his place and he suggested waiting a few days before we leave and visiting his parents. I've met his sisters and they're great, by the way.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:14 PM on May. 14, 2010

  • Never... They are both gone...

    But I wouldn't have expected to meet them til we were planning to get married... before that, I don't know why it would matter...
    SabrinaMBowen

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 8:19 PM on May. 14, 2010

  • I met hubby's dad about a month after we started dating. His mom lived out of state. I would talk to her on the phone. But I didn't meet her face to face until 4 years into our relationship, a year before we got married.
    LorisChar

    Answer by LorisChar at 8:25 PM on May. 14, 2010

  • My DH met my mom when was about 4 years old and always knew his family. Then she met him as someone I dated on our 3rd date when he came to pick me up. He hasn't met my dad since he died a long time ago although my dad knew their family.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:29 PM on May. 14, 2010

  • my dh just a few months into our relationship. My ex, i met his mother at the exact moment i met him.
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 8:30 PM on May. 14, 2010

  • I meet my hubby's Dad two days after we were dating. He lived at home at the time. I have never meet his mom. She passed away the year before we meet.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:34 PM on May. 14, 2010

  • 2 weeks after we met
    worriedmommy600

    Answer by worriedmommy600 at 8:57 PM on May. 14, 2010

  • We met at work. And it just so happened that my mom, his mom, his 2nd oldest brother, and ex-sister in law all worked there. Then I think it was atleast a month until I met his dad. But my mom actually knew him before I did.
    Apple_Pie2010

    Answer by Apple_Pie2010 at 9:41 PM on May. 14, 2010

  • one guy i dated for 2 years and never met them. they lived right up the road, i was always afraid he would ask me to meet them, and his dad's house intimidated me a LOT. he knew my mom before i knew him.
    but my dh i met his parents the first time we went out. we went to the fair and they were there so i got to meet them and his sister. as for being nervous, i wouldnt. his mom wont be judgmental until she is your MIL. lol
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:53 PM on May. 14, 2010

  • I met my DH's parents after we had been dating a few months. LAter on I found out that he told them he wanted to marry me.....he proposed about three months later. I thought they were really very nice but I didn't realize they knew he was going to propose. That was in 1964, back in the days when we were all very old fashioned. :-) Dating....marriage...kids....home....etc.All in that order.
    gertie41

    Answer by gertie41 at 11:24 PM on May. 14, 2010

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