She wasn't expected because I was on BC, but when we found out I was pregnant, I asked him, "Is this what you want?" His response was lukewarm. In retrospect, I should have known something was up, but every time I brought the subject up, he would tell me that it was a shock but that he would get used to it. I didn't press him hard enough.
When our daughter came, it was like he wanted to forget her existence. Even though I had a uterine infection and mastitis in both breasts, he did not help me at all. For the first two months of her life, I did everything--baths, diaper changes, feedings, everything. He finally started helping after I broke down sobbing that I couldn't do it anymore.
Now she is seven months old and he still wants nothing to do with her. I have tried everything, but he makes it clear that he takes no pleasure in her--not maliciously, but through reading during his time with her, etc. I can't be the only
Asked by Anonymous at 6:50 AM on May. 17, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)
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Sounds to me that your husband may never wanted kids, but was torn between is love for you and your love for ya'lls child. Basically he doesn't want the baby, but he also does not want to lose you because of it. That's why he didn't tell you up front, IMO.
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