My daughter (age 7) was sexually abused before we adopted her. She masturbates excessively and had a couple of incidents of sexual touching with other children. Although these behaviors are normal to a degree, I was overly concerned because of her background. I have sometimes I handled these situations badly and made her feel ashamed (even knowing that is the wrong approach) and treated her like I didn't trust her (I didn't). I was afraid of her 'victimizing' other children and was hypervigilent about the issue. Now I am sure I have 'messed her up' even worse. Yesterday I violated her privacy by opening her locked door while she masturbating (nude). She felt intense shame. I am trying to figure out how to repair the damage. I apologized and told her I was wrong, and that she didn't do anything wrong, and that masturbation is normal (even though I think for her it is more of an unhealthy obessession). Help please!
Asked by Anonymous at 12:24 PM on May. 17, 2010 in Adoption
Answer by Anonymous at 12:43 PM on May. 17, 2010
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Answer by Piskie at 12:59 PM on May. 17, 2010