Let me start by saying, IT REALLY HURTS!!! She just does it when she feels like it. Especially when she runs to me and holds her hands up, i will pick her up n she will either bite, hit, or find a very tender spot and pinch. I grab her hand, hold it, and say Owch, that hurts. Do not do it again. She busts out crying! I feel horrible and I wish there was another way to stop her. Plus my way seems to not be working! Help!
Asked by Anonymous at 11:42 AM on May. 19, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)
Answer by IzabellaBugg at 11:46 AM on May. 19, 2010
People will tell you to hit, pop, and bite her. All of those things are horrible and won't work! Psychologists know they won't work.
The best way is to anticipate it and avoid it. If you know it might happen when you pick her up you could pick her up in a way she can't do anything; backwards, holding her arms down, or hugging her whole body. You could warn her before you pick her up to not pinch in a nice way and if she does just put her down, don't go to the point where you make her cry. If she is falling apart emotionally she can't learn. If you just put her down and she wants up then she may learn that to get up she can't pinch.
Love & Limits is a great first toddler discipline book by Elizabeth Crary. She has a website called star parenting.
Answer by Gailll at 11:51 AM on May. 19, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 11:56 AM on May. 19, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 11:59 AM on May. 19, 2010