Me and my mother has taken this nine year old girl under our wing since she doesn't have a mother herself and her dad is pretty lost when it comes to girls. She is like family to us and we love her to death. Well she started her period yesterday which is a surprise because she is only nine so we are wondering if we should have the sex talk with her or is she still to young. I know her hormones are all over the place and she likes boys so should I a be cautious and tell her that having sex can get her pregnant or should i wait. I am so confused because of her age. I wouldn't worry over it if she didn't have a period and wasn't so into boys, what do you think ? is she to young for the sex talk?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:18 PM on May. 21, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)
Answer by Anonymous at 2:20 PM on May. 21, 2010
Answer by jennifer588 at 2:21 PM on May. 21, 2010
Answer by Jessica1991 at 2:23 PM on May. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 2:27 PM on May. 21, 2010
No you shouldn't. She is very young, it's doubtful that her classmates are having sex and if they did I'm pretty sure boys that age don't produce sperm, and the most important aspect to it is that you are NOT her parent! I'm sure that you wouldn't want her to feel uncomfortable with you because you start talking about "inappropriate" things that she may not be ready for. Just because a little girls thinks a boy is cute, doesn't mean that they're thinking about having sex with them.
Answer by Anonymous at 2:39 PM on May. 21, 2010
In dealing with her changing body, you or her dad should pick up the book "The care and keeping of you", it explains puberty and all the changes she's going through in wording that's informative and easy for a child to understand. The only message you should impart on her sexuality is that no matter what it is never okay for anyone to touch her, adults or children alike. The only exception should be if she came to you asking you questions. Then and only then, should you be open and honest with her.
Answer by Anonymous at 2:40 PM on May. 21, 2010
Answer by DevilInPigtails at 3:07 PM on May. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:55 PM on May. 21, 2010
If she has started menstruating, she can become pregnant. Someone needs to start having regular conversations with her about hygeine, her changing body, hormones, and sex.
Answer by rkoloms at 9:58 AM on May. 22, 2010
Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:38 PM on May. 22, 2010
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