My MIL has been dating a guy for about 3-4 years off and on now. He's a drunk. and right now he's too the point where he is killing himself by drinking. He keeps saying he is quitting and he will stay sober for a few months then he goes right back. He breaks up with my MIL about 3 times a year then comes crawling back. (why is she putting up with him?? I have no idea!) but anyways... he keeps calling himself grandpa to my baby. I told my MIL point blank that he is NOT to be around my baby if he's drinking, she siad that wasn't fair because she's seen dh drink beer with her. TOTALLY different! One beer vs. a bottle of gin (what her bf drinks). She keeps saying he wants to be in her life, but I told her not until he can prove that he is ready to be a gpa. It's not fair to my baby. I don't want her to get attached to him then he drink himself to death when she's like 4 and have to deal with that. (con't)...Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:03 AM on May. 22, 2010 in General Parenting
Answer by Anonymous at 11:05 AM on May. 22, 2010
Answer by heratyc at 11:17 AM on May. 22, 2010
There is more going on than "just trying to protect dd". Make it just about your dd and tell your mom you will no longer come to her home unless he is not there. She is welcome to come to your home without him. That settles the problem. Don't discuss it (1 beer vs 1 bottle of gin) or try to tell her she should not be with him.
Answer by Gailll at 11:17 AM on May. 22, 2010
Answer by Kiwismommy19 at 12:28 PM on May. 22, 2010
OK one how is he with your child? Two can you try and help him? Maybe tell him look I want you in my child's life I can see that you love her but you need to be clean and stay clean!!! That is what my mother did with my grandpa. When she found out she was pregnant with me he was doing drugs. She sat him down (he was her step dad) and told him how she felt. You know what he did? WENT TO REHAB!!! He was out by time I was born and was the best grandpa in the world. He really was. He yelled at me(that I can remember) twice in 18 years. Unfortunately it only lasted 18 years and he got back into drugs and died from a heart attack. But if my mom never said that to him then he may not have ever went to rehab!
Answer by delilahsmom1177 at 1:04 PM on May. 22, 2010
Yeah I would not be cool with the title of grandpa either. He's NOT a grandpa, and he does sound like a lush. I don't think you are over reacting at all.
Answer by KairisMama at 3:16 PM on May. 22, 2010