At this age, what types of things are your children responsible for? What do they do for themselves, and what do you still do for them? What types of chores do they have? What types of freedoms do they have? What types of things do you allow them to do alone, and/or with friends? How much supervision do you give them when they are playing alone or with friends - outside, on the computer, etc? Do they spend a lot of time at friends houses or at your house with friends or with family?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:34 AM on May. 22, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)
We didn't use the same vocabulary. I am a single disabled mother and I have 3 sons, now adults. We homeschooled and when they were tweens and teens I was a full time doctoral student. Since I was disabled and a single mother (usually in a wheelchair) we qualified for a free homemaker that came to our house and did the big house cleaning once a week.
The boys did their own laundry from the time they were tall enough to do it. We didn't have "chores", everyone just did what needed to be done. Often I went with - first, then. First clean up the living room, then we will go to baseball practice. The freedoms they had depended on the child. I used an authoritative (non-punishment) form of childrearing. My kids were very well behaved and I didn't have any problems with them.
Answer by Gailll at 11:51 AM on May. 22, 2010
My oldest son didn't follow my advice several times and things turned out not so good. For example, when he was 16 I let him drive the family station wagon to a campout (it was worth about $500) and told him to leave it in the scout camp parking lot. He decided to drive it around the scout camp and hit 2 trees, damaging one door so bad it couldn't open. He would have liked to have been grounded (something I never did) because my logical consequence was he could never drive to campouts in a car I owned again. His brothers learned from his mistakes.
When my kids were tweens I had them have friends come to our house and I would be there. They could go outside. We would take friends camping. They had a lot of freedom when we camped. They could use the computer with no supervision.
Answer by Gailll at 12:02 PM on May. 22, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 2:24 AM on May. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 2:27 AM on May. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 2:30 AM on May. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 9:05 AM on May. 26, 2010
Answer by justanotherjen at 4:29 PM on May. 30, 2010