I'm having trouble. Can you relate to this?
I'm having a mid life crisis. I know what it is. I am 41. I am done having kids. (I don't want to be done.) My health is shot. I have a crappy job and an alcoholic husband. Financially am ok, but not great. My kids are almost adults. I am PISSED. I feel like my babies grew up overnight. I feel like I got screwed out of a life. (Not a different life, just that it went too damn fast.)
I am really depressed about it. What can I do? Unfortunately life doesn't have a pause or rewind button like my DVR. :( Wouldn't that be nice?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:50 AM on May. 22, 2010 in Just for Fun
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Answer by preacherskid at 12:07 PM on May. 22, 2010
You don't want kids especially at 41. I think every women goes through that I want kids again thing ( I did and still do from time to time). You are not old but now is your time to shine go have fun. Do the things that you weren't able to do when your kids were young, kick the husband to the curb, ( at his age he will never change cuz its to late). You are not the only one who has had regrets EVERYBODY DOSE. I believe our mistakes make us who we are. Get out there and LIVE. Everything will be ok. If you believe in God ask for his help. Take care.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:09 PM on May. 22, 2010
I'm 54 and I started a doctoral program when I was older than you. I have been single for over 20 years and I love being single. My health has been so bad for 22 years (since I was pregnant with my youngest) that I am disabled and can't work. I live on SSI of $675 a month. Since my 3 children are now all adults I no longer get child support. I have a special needs 20 mo grandson I take care of about 60 hours a week.
Leave your husband. I think going back to school may be a good idea. Do something you want to do. Go to the doctor and get some antidepressants. Learn coping skills for depression. Meditation works well for me.
Answer by Gailll at 12:11 PM on May. 22, 2010
It sound like you've spent your life taking care of your family and now they don't need to be taken care of anymore. I think most woman go through a stage like that. I remember my mom going through it. Luckily my mom also had a close friend going through the same thing and they helped each other through it. Here's the deal. You don't want to waste to much time being depressed because this is your free time when you could really get into a hobby and explore your own interests. Reconnect with old friends that you might have lost contact with while you were both busy raising kids and didn't have time to keep in touch. Depending on your kids, you should do it quick because you'll end up with your arms filled with Grand babies before you know it.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:14 PM on May. 22, 2010
Isn't this called the empty nest syndrome or some such thing? Are there any empty nest groups you can get involved in?
Answer by Anonymous at 12:17 PM on May. 22, 2010
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