So about the 5th time my s.o. went down on me, i kinda told him he needs more practice. I was half joking like, oh you need more practice get back down there, and well half not because he hasnt dont it much and does/did need more practice. Well now when ever i bring it up, cuz while he may not be amazing i still want it! He tells me "i 'broke' his confidence. . . yadayada, tells me i told him he SUCKS!" So im pissed, like i love him i could live without it but i know he is using it as an excuse! I dont want to say "i do it for you all the time so i should get some in return" because i dont give him head expecting head, i do it because i like to and want to make him happy. (mostly because i like to) but i wish he wanted to, he says he used to like to but i 'broke his confidence'. ARGH! I just want some and dont know how to make him see that he is hurting my feelings now by being like this for almost 2 years!Answer Question
stop giving him head.Tell him that by not pleasing you in that way... it made you feel like he's not attracted to you anymore.. therefore you have no desire to give him head... because it makes you think about the whole thing... then you start to feel unattractive again. What he is doing is being passive aggressive. He likes getting head... but I think he never really liked licking snatch. SO he is using what you said against you to get all of what he wants. Which is head... without having to return the favor. If what I first suggested don't work, then ask him if he every liked licking you snatch in the first place and if not is he using what you said against you so he don't have to.
Answer by soonmommyof3 at 3:27 AM on May. 23, 2010
Answer by smilelovesmile at 3:32 AM on May. 23, 2010
I know.. I'm sorry hun. Sometimes we just have to self sacrifice. I wish you the greatest luck. YOU deserve every bit of pleasure.
Answer by soonmommyof3 at 3:46 AM on May. 23, 2010
Answer by Ewadun at 5:36 AM on May. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 9:27 AM on May. 23, 2010
Answer by smilelovesmile at 10:13 AM on May. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:15 AM on May. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 12:28 PM on May. 23, 2010
yeah, cuz all Men are reasonable right?
Have you considered making a game of it? Like "to the left, to the left, to the right, to the right, stay there, stay there?" I think most men are not used to "perfecting or personalizing" their techniques because a lot of their past women never spoke up! Or when you're doing him, have you joked with him about "this is mine and I will talk only to the microphone?" I don't believe that denying him head is the answer and agree that this will just piss him off. The message you're trying to get across becomes blurred that way. This is not about gifts or punishments. This should be about deepening the intimacy in your relationship. Go for it and take him, girl! Best wishes.....
Answer by soonmommyof3 at 3:00 PM on May. 23, 2010
Answer by admckenzie at 3:08 PM on May. 23, 2010
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