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Let me start by saying wow!

well here it goes my friends baby is 12 months old and only weighs 17 pounds and her mom does not feed her food she's afraid the baby will choke so she wont give her food not even baby food the baby is tiny she wears cloths size 6 to 9 months and there big on her my question it how do i tell her to stop that and feed her baby ?

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:26 PM on May. 23, 2010 in Just for Fun

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  • op here by the way at the baby's birthday party she didn't even give her cake not even a taste!

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:27 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • Call CPS on her

    Answer by louise2 at 4:28 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • Wow is right. I had a kid that was small. She was nursed and was 9 lbs at birth and at one year 17 lbs. She ate everything. Well except baby food. She hated the stuff and kept spitting it out. She went right on to table food. AT two years she weighed in at 25 lbs and at three years was 27 lbs. So Weird. She kept growing taller.
    However if you feel a baby is malnourished then you need to do something to help her. However breast milk is the most important food for the first two years.

    Answer by mmmegan38 at 4:30 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • Mind your own business. If there is a problem her pediatrician will address it. My child was wearing size 6 month when she was a year old. She's a tiny kid.


    Answer by Anonymous at 4:31 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • you have to think logically on this one. she is AFRAID THE BABY WILL CHOKE ......... and she KNOWS HOW MUCH THE BABY WEIGHS..... she obviously loves the baby, is over protective, coddling the baby..... which includes most likely taking the baby to the pediatrician if it sneezes funny. I'd relax. The baby had a 1st birthday party w/ family and friends, she is not hiding it away! Her dr. will guide her. Shame on you, PP, for advising her to call cps. Do u know how many babies choke and die every year? What is she doing so abusive? If she didn't love the kid enough to feed it why the FRICK would she throw it a party?

    Answer by hibbingmom at 4:35 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • well annon 4:31 i would but even her pedi threaten to call cps if the baby didnt gain wight by her next appointment !!

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:36 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • 1) I cannot believe a pediatrician would truly say that. threats dont make children gain weight

    2) if he DID say that, the momma should immediately find another dr for the baby and report that one to the state board

    3) momma should be sent w/ baby to a dietitian consult by the pediatritian

    4) possibly a feeding therapist

    5) and blood work, etc etc etc etc etc ruling out medical issues, swallowing problems, etc w/ the baby

    6) at the bare bare min. the baby should be gaining slightly on the formula/whole milk/breastmilk it drinks. babies at a yr SOMETIMES still breastfeed exclusively and eat minimal table food....... the momma should have been instructed at the 9 month wellness visit to keep a food/drink intake log for the baby for a week

    has the electrolytes and kidney functions been checked? i still say it's a nervous momma and not abuse. is baby hitting all the development milestones?

    Answer by hibbingmom at 4:43 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • Louise, there you go again. Ugh.

    Anyways op, Don't get into it. It is her business. :)

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:49 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • My cousin's son only weighed 14 lbs at 12 months(6.6 at birth) and it was because she was DILUTING his formula so he wouldn't get fat if you can believe that,and he was taken away in Oct,and she still doesn't have him back.Her pedi didn't threaten her,but he did report her to CPS. Thanks to her actions he's almost 20 months now and only 21 lbs. the docs said there's a good chance he may never get over 5 ft tall because of the malnutrition. Your friend needs to be investigated IMO

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:50 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • I know you are concern, but please dont call cps, the childs doctor will do that if he feels the child is in danger. Instead just sit her down and tell her that you are concern. Tell her she doesnt want CPS involved, it creates alot of trouble for her. Tell her that you are friend and you will help her in anyway she needs you to. Sujested foods that the child could start off on. If she doesnt follow your advice, then I am afraid that she going have to find out the hard way the doctor means bussiness. you can lead a horse to water but you cant make them drink. good luck

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:55 PM on May. 23, 2010

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