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What can I do to stop this?

A little boy is making up rumors about myneice. I know that she doesn't even go out with boys, but this boy is calling her a hooker and he is saying other things about her. What should she do to stop this? They are in 7th grade.

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:50 PM on May. 23, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • A 7th grade hooker? I'm sure no one would believe that but if it bothers you go to the school and have the principal talk with him then go talk to the parents if he doesn't stop.

    Answer by admckenzie at 9:51 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • hard facts of life, people like to talk and will! it sucks! i would talk to the principal and have the boy questioned and ask them to take care of it. maybe suggest some counseling for your niece if this is really affecting her.

    Answer by angevil53 at 9:51 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • firstly, what are her parents doing about it? You can't stop kids saying nasty things, you can only influence the way you react, teach her to walk away with dignity, to laugh off idiotic rumours, and to stare down a bully with a pitying stare. She can control how everyone else reacts to his comments simply by the way she carries herself.
    As for the school, this is a case of clear bullying, the parents need to go to school and raise merry hell, to get this boy disciplined - be warned though, it will most likely make him angrier and nastier,

    Answer by myheartx4 at 9:55 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • There isn't anything you can do. It's called freedom of speech. IF you really have proof that he is making these statements and you want to ruin his life, you CAN take him to court for defamation, but seeing as how he's in 7th grade, that would be a bit insane. Personally, I would tell your niece to grow a pair and stand up to him... Once she kicks the shit out of him once or twice, he'll quit... Besides, if she doesn't act the part, no one will believe it anyways...

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:55 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • This is a form of bullying. Hopefully, the school has a policy in place to deal with it.

    Answer by rkoloms at 10:22 PM on May. 23, 2010

  • Equip your niece with a button-cam and get it on tape, otherwise nobody's going to care.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:55 PM on May. 24, 2010

  • You fight fire with fire. As long as your niece allows this boy to call her names, he'll continue to do so. I'm not saying to fight him or anything violent but if he calls her names tell her to call him names as well.

    Answer by mom2mybabes at 12:26 PM on May. 25, 2010

  • go to the principal and express your concerns. stay updated and informed with the latest news on school bullying. this should not be tolerated!

    Answer by LavenderRose10 at 12:51 AM on May. 26, 2010

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