I have a 6 year old stepdaughter that has been thru alot in the past few years. Recently, Children and youth pulled her away from her mother and she now lives with me and her father and her younger sister but this is not the first time she has ever lived with us. Ever since I met her she has had a really hard time listening to me and her dad. Shes been very violent and wants things her way or the highway. Ive tried standing her in the corner, taking away her privelages, and nothing works. Any suggestions on what else we can do here? Im worried if we dont help her in some type of way we are headed for disaster.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:02 PM on May. 24, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
Answer by MELRN at 11:03 PM on May. 24, 2010
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Answer by Anonymous at 11:17 PM on May. 24, 2010
Nothing works? You only mention punishments. Using punishments is the least effective way of parenting. Have you tried other ways of parenting? Punishments make troubled children have more problems. Their behavior gets worse, they lie, they hurt younger children and animals, they sneak, and they resent their parents. Punishment usually doesn't stop bad behavior and never teaches good behavior.
The authoritative style of parenting is most effective. You can google it to find more info. A good first parenting book is Love & Limits by Elizabeth Crary. She has a website called star parenting. Look into local parenting classes like STEP.
Answer by Gailll at 11:17 PM on May. 24, 2010
You should never slap, spank, hit, tap, pop, or use other physical punishment with her. People on cm use all kinds of code names for hit. You are not the parent and you could get in trouble for hitting her. She could end up in foster care and you could have charges brought against you.
My step son was being hit by his step father and I know all about this. I was outraged that this was going on and we were going to take action against the step father. He agreed to stop hitting my step son since he didn't want to go to jail and the mom didn't want to loose custody.
Answer by Gailll at 11:23 PM on May. 24, 2010
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