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is this right...

i have a friend that was bullied in high school.she doesnt go anywhere unless her friends are there,.i think she thinks power in numbers....anyway.. lately the friends have numbered off.there are just a few of us left....anyway i am noticing she is beginning to sort of us her dd as a sheild.scary....her dd is very smart and mature for her age...but i guess you could say that she is using her as one of her numbers..where her other friends have left...i think this is strange and not very good for the girl...thoughts /////

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:58 AM on May. 25, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • you really need to be more specific

    Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 11:56 AM on May. 25, 2010

  • Some people are very deeply affected by childhood abuse and bullying... And it sounds like that is the case here. I would suggest to her that she get some help to get over her fears. Because it IS going to not only affect her life, but the life of her daughter and friends. It will take a good bit of time and work but she CAN get through the fear at the root of this issue... But she needs to do so!

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 12:01 PM on May. 25, 2010

  • I was someone who was bullied (well teased, but it has the same affect, trust me, there wasn't a day that it didn't happen) throughout school (from kindgarten to graduation). She is afraid of it happening all over again, so she chooses to encircle herself w/ people she trusts. However, using her daughter to protect herself is not good and not healthy. She should be her daughter's protector, not the other way around. I would try suggesting that she a counselor. She seems to live in paranoia that the world is out to get her and she needs to be able to life as a normal adult.

    Answer by thatgirl70 at 12:16 PM on May. 25, 2010

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