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why is the father a my baby acting so mean he was perfect and wonderful until a few months ago i am 7 months pregnant and my friends say its just because it is getting closer to my due date and he is scared but just doesnt want to admit it.

we have been together for 9 and a half months and im 7 months pregnant with both of ours first child and he loves the fact that im pregnant and he cant wait till the baby is here but he just recently started being mean to me and always yelling at me for no apparent reason, why?

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Asked by BreNicole at 4:41 PM on Jun. 27, 2008 in Relationships

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  • If he is being physically mean you need to get out and do something else until he can calm down. If he is just really grouchy and touchy, he may be stressing about how to pay for things when the baby gets here, they bad getting here in general, he may be afraid he will not meet up to your expectations as a father, there are soo many things that make you stress with pregnancy. Most women don't realize the stress their significant other is going through at the same time. Talk to him and if he doesn't want to talk try just reasurring him that he will be a good father, tell him the money situation will be okay, and they baby and you are doing okay. Try to talk to him and see if that works. But if he is being physically mean you need to get out asap until he can calm down. That will be very harmful to you but most importantly your unborn child!

    Answer by winesburghqh at 4:48 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

  • 1. He could be scared and is taking it out on you.
    2. He is probably getting very anxious about how he is supposed to support a new family.
    3. He could just be an ass who is getting cold feet about the whole thing.
    4. You ARE 7 months pregnant... and you could be overly sensitive, which is completely normal!

    Talk to him. that's the only way to sort things out. If you can get him to open up about it, then things will be better. If he tells you you are being crazy and oversensitive, take his word for it. We women are nutzo when we are pregnant : P LOL

    Answer by sapient at 4:48 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

  • are you having sex with him? this is an honest question cause it can cause alot of stress when a guy doesnt get any for a while.
    I am not saying you should put out i am just suggesting a reason for his behavior.
    maybe he is worried about money issues - maybe you are cranky and he is reciprocating your emotions - maybe his friends are putting sh*t talk into his head -
    i think you should talk to him - he might not initiate talking but he might just feel like he is the only one with certain worries and doesnt want to bother you with them - but since you are bringing it up he might just tell you how he feels.

    Answer by vakatia at 5:02 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

  • He may be a little freaked out because it has fully set in that both of your lives are changing forever and you now have a lifeling attachment to each other, and the biggest responsibility of your lives will be here in two months. The lady above mentioned that you may be a little oversensitive, which you are because we all are when we are pregnant, and you may not realize that you are a little touchy as well. Also, you two had only been together for two months before you got pregnant so your relationship was still in that "best behavior" mode and the newness of your relationship has worn off. Men also go thru panic and self-doubt and fear and do not like to admit it. And yes, communication is the key to everything in life, not just relationships.

    Answer by honeyhill at 5:07 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

  • once that baby is here he will be fine hes afraid and its okay everyone is and once that child smiles at him he will be fine

    Answer by Patience1 at 10:49 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

  • i think he is being mean because this relationship is only happening because of the pregnancy. you've only been together two months longer.

    Answer by hiddenpoet at 7:47 PM on Jun. 28, 2008

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