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If you divorced the father of your kids and he wasn't cheating or abusive, what advice do you have for moms trying to make their marriages work?

The idea of sharing your kids, of them having 2 homes and not spending every night with both parents is heart breaking. If you've been through a divorce and infidelity, abusive, or addiction weren't the reason, what advice do you have for moms to help keep their marriages together?

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:30 PM on May. 26, 2010 in Relationships

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  • If the marriage is built on love and respect and you have lost some of that along the way, get some marriage counseling and make it work. If it is a loveless marriage and you are unhappy do not continue the marriage for the kids sake you will be doing them a disservice in the long run, it is better to have two separate happy parents than two unhappy together.

    Answer by older at 4:37 PM on May. 26, 2010

  • Communitcation, trust, faithfulness, loyalty have to be there for anything to work. If you second guess your spouse, if you doubt them, if you can't seem to trust them then nothing will work out. If you have no foundation your relationship will crumble. That goes for not having any respect or genuine love for one another as well. If you don't have genuine love and respect for your spouse then you're beating a dead horse. There has to be a foundation for any counseling, any therapy, any 'talking it out' to make any difference.

    You also have to look at why you're getting a divorce. If you have a lagit and sound reason then are you sure you want it to work out? Or are you just backing out before you get hurt? If you or your spouse are just taking the easy way out, then it's again a dead horse. If you don't want to fight for them, then you shouldn't be with them.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 4:44 PM on May. 26, 2010

  • I divorced my ex because we didn't work as husband and wife. Now we are best friends again. We share our son 50/50. We allow each other to take our son on special trips or special occasions even if it's not our day. We do team sports with him and talk about his schooling. We also get along so well with each other's new SO's that we get together for dinners and family parties. Divorcing was the best thing we could have done.

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 4:58 PM on May. 26, 2010

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