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No desire for a boy. Enlighten me.

I would like to have one more baby. Have a girl now and would like another girl. How do I shake that feeling?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 1:40 PM on May. 27, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I don't know what to say - I know I was there, and was disappointed/concerned/etc to find out that I was going to have a boy. Everyone would joke and say "Oh, that's perfect, you'll have one of each!" but all I could think was (with sarcasm) "oh look, a boy, just what I always wanted." Family kept telling me to wait - I'll love him and not think any different later, I'd regret saying that I was disappointed, etc. To tell you the truth, family was right. It's a bit disappointing at first but as they grow, you fall even MORE in love with them. Sometimes I think I love him more than my dd, BUUUUUT maybe it's because I dream of how I can train and equip him to not be like his father for the annoying things or what he doesn't do :-P. At least that's what I tell myself I can do. LOL. If you want another baby bad enough, go ahead, and hun, boys aren't as disappointing as you think. ;-) You just might find yourself surprised!
    pd4now82

    Answer by pd4now82 at 1:54 PM on May. 27, 2010

  • when the baby comes it will probably shake. you will just be happy to have your baby!
    jennifer588

    Answer by jennifer588 at 1:42 PM on May. 27, 2010

  • I don't think it's shakable until you see the ultrasound with the baby, then it's just happiness that there are two arms, two legs and only one head. :-) I had the opposite problem when I was pregnant. Mental illness runs in my family, all the females have some sort of problems, but none of the males seem to, so I was hopping for a boy, but got a girl. I was just happy to have the baby.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:42 PM on May. 27, 2010

  • Not much you can do about that. I have 2 DD's wanted at least one boy. Never got one. Desided to not try a third time. Was affaid I was going to have another girl. Was not worth try for a boy if their was not a 100% chance of having a boy.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 1:44 PM on May. 27, 2010

  • blame SO? jk. there isn't much you can do about it. When the child comes, i'm sure you will love him/her nomatter what gender they are.
    xxhazeldovexx

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 1:47 PM on May. 27, 2010

  • I've got a girl and two boys and wanted another girl....but i'm pregnant with a boy....I was upset, but i'll get over it...babies are wonderful blessings no matter what sex they are!

    have you had any kids???? how do you know you won't like boys more than girls???
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:48 PM on May. 27, 2010

  • I have 3 boys. With my second child they told me for 9 months I was having a girl. When my boy was born I was not let down at all. You are just filled with so much love for the child and you couldn't care less what sex it is.
    Orionsgirl

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 1:48 PM on May. 27, 2010

  • I didn't want a boy at all. It was before they did ultrasounds on everyone and I didn't know until he was born. It wasn't instant love. Good thing I breastfed. It took a lot of those mothering hormones and many months to accept.


    I ended up having 3 boys.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:52 PM on May. 27, 2010

  • I feel you because I wanted a girl too. Of course we know we don't get to place an order so if you get pregnant you just have to take your chances. I think it is tempting fate to try and get pregnant at a certain time for a boy or a girl ever since I read Middlesex. Anyway, the things I considered to be good about having a boy would be that a) I would have the chance to raise a good man which the world definitely needs more of, and b) sons are often eternally devoted to their mothers and that is not necessarily a bad thing, and c) my husband would have as much fun with a boy as I do with my girl. And no one I know who has a son wishes they didn't so it can't be all bad. Plus, while my DD is cute now in her little pink dresses, someday she will come home with some older boy and want to wear sexy clothes and give me a million heart attacks at which point I might wish I had all sons. Good luck!
    MaryMW

    Answer by MaryMW at 2:24 PM on May. 27, 2010

  • I felt the same at first but as soon as he arrived I forgot about it. He is wonderful.
    ABusyBee

    Answer by ABusyBee at 2:33 PM on May. 27, 2010