I'm 4 weeks post partum C-section and I have not been in the mood. Not to mention my husband has been a total ass since the baby was born. He helped for the 1st week out of the hospital and thats it. He goes fishing every weekend instead of being home with us. Tonight he told me that if I didnt give him head he would go find it elsewhere. He said I'm not giving him what he wants...ugh wtf? What should I do? Just give in so he doesn't leave or throw in the towel?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 4:00 AM on May. 30, 2010 in Relationships
This is tough. A lot of men after a baby is born can get jealous I think that on some level that is playing a role here. Also I would strongly suggest counseling for you both, that is very aggressive and unsympathetic of him and very emotional for you. Also to threatened to cheat to strong arm you into giving in is NEVER OK! I would call that for what it is. And you both need help as a couple and that's ok often times couples go through extremely hard spots.
Honestly, my husband can get slightly pushy for sex at times. Not right after the baby but other times sure and honestly I did "give in" not because I fear he would cheat but because I wanted to make him happy...even when I wasn't in the mood.
Good luck and congrats on the baby :)
Answer by Sarahedger at 4:06 AM on May. 30, 2010
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Answer by mommy16love at 4:56 AM on May. 30, 2010
Men, I swear. Your DH needs to understand that your body is going through a serious hormone shift right now and is healing. I personally don't even want to give DH a BJ if I am not in the mood too. I would tell him to speak with your doctor about it so they can explain it better to him WHY you are not in the mood right now. I would tell him if he threatens you with cheating EVER again to find a damn good lawyer. Remind him of how it would make him look with his family and friends if he cheated because you JUST gave birth. What an ass
Answer by Anonymous at 4:59 AM on May. 30, 2010
Okay I am back again...something about this is very disturbing to me. After thinking on this a long time I think I would leave him. I would go stay with my Mom or Dad if you can...maybe even a sister. I wonder if he is already cheating. For him to say it so easily and over something so petty shakes me up. I am not saying that you should leave for good but a trial separation would at least show his commitment level and also his true colors. I really hope you and your child are ok. I think your husband has to say the very least lost sight of his focus.
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