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commitment (kinda long)

Me & my SO have been together for almost 3 yrs and we have 2 kids together. i know that he does love me but there is this way that he talks to his female friends, he doesnt see a problem in how friendly he is towards them but me being a female i know how they take these things to the head. but basically do u think that i should tell him we need to get engaged so i know that he is only after me & ready to be commited to only me. or should i just try to get over him because he does seem to like the attention he gets his ego just really gets in the way.

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:26 PM on May. 30, 2010 in Relationships

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  • you should only get engaged if you want to be married. not because he's flirty with other women. if he does it to inflate his ego talk to him about it. tell him you don't like the way he speaks with other women. if he loves you he'll respect your concern.

    Answer by xavierlogan09 at 11:29 PM on May. 30, 2010

  • is there something in your past that makes you feel you cannot trust? say maybe a past cheating bf? there has to be a reason for the insecurity.....If you were secure in the relationship you would not be bothered by his so called flirting...he loves you and he is just being himself...your the one he comes home to at the end of the day, right?
    unless you have solid prooff he is a cheater just relax and tell him calmly that he flirts and it bothers you...if he gets defensive then wonder about that..if he respects your words and wisdam then he loves you and will try harder to be more of what you need him to be..

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:45 PM on May. 30, 2010

  • some people just really like to flirt. they dont mean anything by it, it is just how they are. but i dont see why he cant commit to you either, if he only wants to be with you why cant he marry you?

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:28 AM on May. 31, 2010

  • If you think the flirting is inappropriate, getting engaged won't make that any better. You'll just end up being married to a man that flirts with women all the time and makes you feel crappy...and it will be harder to leave and divorce than walk away from a relationship now. Bring it up to him and see if he tells you his side in a sincere way. If not, then you know what you need to do. If he seems like he's not lying, then just go with it and don't force engagement.

    Answer by rio_burb at 7:50 PM on May. 31, 2010

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