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While talking to DS's teacher for next year about volunteers, she said she'd had to modify what she can and cannot allow the parent volunteers to do. She used to let volunteers grade math papers (it's 2nd grade), until one mom threw a hissy about another mom being able to see what grade her child got. She can still let non-parent volunteers and aides help grade, but not the parent volunteers who have kids in the class.

Would you care if another parent saw what your child got on their math homework?

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Asked by NotPanicking at 6:37 PM on May. 31, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Yes because they're usually busybodies who can't keep their mouths shut. Grading should be left to the professionals such as teachers and teachers' aides.

    Answer by ceallaigh at 6:38 PM on May. 31, 2010

  • I wouldn't care, but a lot of parents feel inadequate about their childs progress or lack thereof.

    Answer by older at 6:41 PM on May. 31, 2010

  • Parents should not be grading papers for many reasons including confidentiallity.


    Answer by Gailll at 6:50 PM on May. 31, 2010

  • I wouldn't care - unless they were 'fixing' grades. Other than that, I wouldn't care. I don't talk to any of the other parents in the classroom and everyone who has ever been around my daughter for any amount of time say she's great so I wouldn't care. Why make such a big deal about something so small? Who cares?
    BUT once they get a certain age, I wouldn't want parents too. As a volunteer, I know I wouldn't care what grade kids made on a paper.

    Answer by Blubuni99 at 6:59 PM on May. 31, 2010

  • Yes I would. Because the other parent could tell others about my child's grade. It's none of his/her business.

    Answer by Fallaya at 7:44 PM on May. 31, 2010

  • Teachers should not allow parents to grade papers. I'd never allow that in my class. It's good she is changing her policy.


    Answer by KairisMama at 7:58 PM on May. 31, 2010

  • I would definitely care if my child were getting a bad grade. It would be embarrassing for anyone other than the teacher to know.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:06 PM on May. 31, 2010

  • We have the same issues here. Parent volunteers cannot grade papers. I don't care if others see my girl's papers, but she's a good student. My son is 5, so his papers aren't much to look at yet anyway.

    Answer by Pnukey at 9:07 PM on May. 31, 2010

  • Witnessing the type of gossip and cliques that form in the PTO I would not want anyone besides the teacher or his/her aide to do it. Because these things don't stay with the adults and it gives the children ammo against the other children "Billy is stupid because he failed his math test". Children overhear much of what they shouldn't. So I have to agree, I wouldn't want another parent seeing my child's grades (even though he was on the honor roll since K-before I took him out to home school).

    Answer by Austinsmom35 at 5:28 PM on Jun. 2, 2010

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