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Work or Stay Home

My husband is to the point in his career where he makes enough money for me to stay home. I am still currently working fulltime because our daughter is 3 so I feel she needs to be in daycare/preschool at this age. Since we only have 1 I don't see it being beneficial for me to quit my job now and stay home since I would still send her to school fulltime.

We are thinking of trying for our 2nd next year and he is saying after I have that baby I can quit my job if I want...I just don't know. I would love to stay home for the first year, but then what? I have never not contributed financially to the household, I'm not sure how I would adjust to something like that?? I feel like I have worked so hard to get here and I would like to come back after a year, but I don't think that's possible.

For moms that stay home, is it hard to get back into the workforce after you have left? Did you go back to doing your previous job

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:35 PM on Jun. 1, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • In this economy, it's really hard. I haven't had funding for my job in over a year. It depends what you do. I think it's important to have a family member (could be grandma, could be dad, could be mom) with baby for the first year whenever possible, but it's also important for the baby to be in a happy family where people are comfortable with their roles. So if you don't want to be a SAHM, you could always ask for an extended maternity leave (say, six months) and then hire a nanny for the following 18 months. Nannies are actually not that expensive compared to daycare for babies.

    It's a tough choice. Good luck!

    Answer by MamaZoya at 2:30 PM on Jun. 1, 2010

  • I firmly believe there should be a stay at home parent! If that is possible, you should def. go for it! Youre child needs the stability of a parent, not a provider! Daycare is not the answer! This is just my OP, but children need stability, good luck with your choice!

    Answer by JoLee12345 at 9:58 AM on Jun. 4, 2010

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