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do you consider yourself a helicopter parent? (also called hyper parenting)


Asked by hibbingmom at 2:31 AM on Jun. 2, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • nope but I would like to see an actual definition of it, or read a study about parents who are. that might be interesting.

    Answer by Bearsjen at 2:31 AM on Jun. 2, 2010

  • what is that anyway? can you explain more?

    Answer by MomNbabyGirl009 at 2:33 AM on Jun. 2, 2010

  • This is from a seminar I attended at my daughter's school: • A “Helicopter Parent” typically falls within one or all of these categories:

    o They “hover” over their child’s responsibilities to prevent his/her failure
    o They take on their child’s responsibilities to guarantee that the task is done timely and correctly
    o They blur the parent/friend boundary line

    • The issue of helicopter parenting cuts across racial, socioeconomic and gender lines. Our audience was comprised of a representative group of moms, dads, and people from every racial and socioeconomic group at WY

    • There is a difference between being a helicopter parent and being a good parent. Drawing the line between the two can be challenging and is not the same for every family


    Answer by rkoloms at 6:13 AM on Jun. 2, 2010

  • • Having rules and enforcing them doesn't make you a helicopter parent, particularly when those rules are related to safety (i.e., taking CTA alone to questionable neighborhoods at night)

    • Not allowing your child to fail is detrimental to his/her development : "Failure can be fruitful"

    • Seek to empower your children rather than to control their every move because there will come a time when you will not be able to exercise control (i.e., when they go away to college, etc.)

    • Strive to create an environment of mutual respect. Kids typically feel more empowered to deal with failure when their feelings have been heard

    • Feeling more empowered typically leads to being more resourceful and resilient in dealing with a failure


    Answer by rkoloms at 6:14 AM on Jun. 2, 2010

  • · Key Takeaway Points:

    o Respect your children. Parents want kids to respect them, but some time miss the mark in respecting their kids.

    o Acknowledge your child’s feelings. LISTEN.

    o The main precursor to depression is striving for perfection

    o We do our children a disservice when we do everything for them

    o We should strive to raise kids who become resilient

    o We also want them to be resourceful – they become resourceful by learning how to call upon and use resources – (beyond the safety net of parents/family members)

    o Encourage kids not to back down when a class is tough: accept challenges

    o Once again – FAILURE CAN BE FRUITFUL


    Answer by rkoloms at 6:14 AM on Jun. 2, 2010

  • Nope, not a helicopter parent, especially at the age he is now (15). We provide the boundaries/rules and it is up to him to stay within them and make his own decisions, accept his own mistakes, etc. He's almost grown and will someday be on his own (hopefully) and it is our responsibility as his parents to make sure he is able to make his own decisions & be a responsible, productive member of society.

    Answer by mom2aspclboy at 8:16 AM on Jun. 2, 2010

  • Nope. Kiwi has her boundaries, but is allowed to do what she wants within those boundaries. Sometimes, she does great and makes great decisions, sometimes, she royally screws up. But when she makes the bad decisions, we talk about it and she figures out where she went wrong and what she should do differently in the future. She is very independent and makes a lot of her own choices in dress, play, food (within the "healthy" food boundaries), ect...

    Answer by Kiwismommy19 at 4:13 PM on Jun. 2, 2010