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Do you think it's a good idea to live together before getting married?

Why/why not?


Asked by Anonymous at 2:23 AM on Jun. 3, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (20)
  • Yes, I don't think you ever really know somebody until you live with them. People can hide their faults when you only see them for a few hours at a time, but when you see them 24/7 there is no way you can hide them.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 2:27 AM on Jun. 3, 2010

  • yes! definitly b/c people change when you are living and around them more

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:26 AM on Jun. 3, 2010

  • i wish i would have lived with my DH before..... i would have known all he does is play video games has no interest in me or taking care of his things.... hes a slob

    Answer by joycegina at 2:31 AM on Jun. 3, 2010

  • Yup I agree with pp plus i saw on tv once that people who lived together before marriage had stronger and longer lasting marriages


    Answer by lovelyli217 at 2:32 AM on Jun. 3, 2010

  • yes def. you learn who they REALLY are when u live with them, i lived with DH for 1 yeat before we got married and im happy we did, he turned out t be a pretty good and clean kinda guy. :)

    Answer by lhernandez7208 at 2:59 AM on Jun. 3, 2010

  • Yes!! You never REALLY know someone until you have lived with them!!

    Answer by MomNbabyGirl009 at 3:07 AM on Jun. 3, 2010

  • I sure wish I did, but its all good now. He no longer does the things that drove me the most crazy. Of course him being scared by my potential to died at any moment can fix that. I have End stage renal disease. I just thank god that he loves me enough to be there for me when things get really tough.


    Answer by soonmommyof3 at 3:30 AM on Jun. 3, 2010

  • die not died

    Answer by soonmommyof3 at 3:30 AM on Jun. 3, 2010

  • as everyone else has said, YES!!! I am sooo glad i lived with DF first and foremost! we are not married yet but had we not lived together first, we would have married too fast and i would be miserable right now. we have had a chance to really know each other day in and day out. it has been the best decision to live together first! i recommend that to everyone!

    Answer by NathansMommy218 at 4:01 AM on Jun. 3, 2010

  • YES OH YES OH GOD YES!!! agree w/ sleepingbeautee, much harder to hide faults, habits, cleanliness, addictions, quirks, etc if you are there seeing it 1st hand. It gives you a chance to see what "for the rest of your life" is gonna look like! After getting a real look @ the person you're living w/ you can decide if you really can live w/ them till you/they die.

    Answer by Nyx7 at 7:26 AM on Jun. 3, 2010