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theres got to be a way to scientific way to figure out if your still inlove

ive been married for 2 years. i have a 3 year old with much bs rite now, i feel like i cant trust my own thoughts,insticts,gut,feeling, or opionions. I guess i just dont know what road to take. Concidering ifeel like im at a dead end, or one of those left or right intersections.No doubt i was inlove with him when i first layed eyes on him and when we got prego and wen we married.. sometime i do, sometimes i dont. thats doubt so i think i dont. but i do. im so confused and fusturated with my whole life. There is just so much to consider and i feel like im just in a whole and dont know how to talk my way out of this one..Would like to just dissapear for a little while from everyone..AHH wanna just explode. help!?


Asked by Anonymous at 2:03 AM on Jun. 4, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (6)
  • unfortunately emotions have little to do with science, at least in how they affect our lives. this sounds like something within you more than anything that needs to be solved. why don't you trust yourself? this could be growing up in a dysfunctional family where you were taught this (e.g. you saw things and your parents attempted to convince you that things were otherwise than you observed - this happens frequently when there is an abusive relationship or alcoholism/addiction). similar things happen in abusive / dishonest relationships where you begin to question your sanity and instinct when repeatedly being lied to and controlled. or on occasion you tried to follow your gut and things turned out badly - sometimes it's hard to differentiate the true instinct from fear and desire. if you can truly get in touch with yourself you will find your answers. do you connect with any of these scenarios? what is happening that is off?

    Answer by figaro8895 at 6:44 AM on Jun. 4, 2010

  • Heh heh. You've just outlined the CLASSIC description of a woman in mid-marriage. You're still in love, unless you actively hate him. There will be passivity from time to time. And even irritation over the things he does. But you sound really quite normal. That moon June spoon romantic feeling does go away over time, and that's FINE.

    Answer by gdiamante at 2:11 AM on Jun. 4, 2010

  • i say just talk to him about it. youre giving up too easy. try to work on things with him.

    Answer by jennifer588 at 2:15 AM on Jun. 4, 2010

  • So in not so many words you feel you are on the outside looking in?! That what like it siounds like to me. You need to dig deep down inside of yourself and find out what the true feelings you are having for him and you also need to speak with your doctor it sounds like you may also be a little depressed.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:24 AM on Jun. 4, 2010

  • yes there is a scientific way...don't you remember doing this

    your name ex.. sally mally

    + his name willy dilly
    ________________________6___6__________________you would be 66% in thats science!
    whatever letters you have in common you get a point...

    Answer by shay1130 at 9:03 AM on Jun. 4, 2010

  • you need to have a chat with your husband and let him know what youre thinking. is he cheating, gambling, abusive, or an alcholic? if not then you need to try to work on your marriage. you are giving up when you havent done anything to save it. you think you dont love him anymore? do you think the grass is greener without him? if he is a good man you should want to keep him. hello!! look around CM and see how bad some ladies have it. be happy and content with what you have. happiness and self esteem starts with SELF.

    Answer by 3xangel at 11:54 AM on Jun. 4, 2010