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What do you do when your child is stealing from you?

Had a feeling it has been happening, we finally caught her. How did you deal with it? How do you deal with the feelings of mistrust?

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keli79

Asked by keli79 at 4:25 PM on Jun. 5, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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  • I would have her tested for drugs.


    Im guessing the stealing is a symptom of the real issue/problem at hand.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:26 PM on Jun. 5, 2010

  • From my experiance there is an underlying issue. My dd issue was me and her dad being seprated. this was after 5-6 of divorce.matter fact he had a girlfriend and i had a boy friend. First thing i did was had some cops talk to her try to ( in my mind) scare her straight. We also go her into counsling but honestly i don't think that helped her much she wouldn't rewally talk to anyone but teens are sooo smart she got where she would talk but only tell them what they wanted to hear. best of luck and maybe this is going to be a passing phase. it took us till she was 16 to get passed this. we moved to texas and she got caught at jcpennys shop lifting and they took her to "teen lockup" till i got there and she had to report to a probation officer every month for a year.we had to go thru alot with her. I wish you the best of luck
    momoftwogirls

    Answer by momoftwogirls at 4:47 PM on Jun. 5, 2010

  • call the police and have her arrested drop the hammer on her to make it stop we had the police talk to our son he stole everything from us camcorders, wallets, tools and it started out little. It could be drugs but it could be her just stealing to steal. Stop it now before it gets worse harsh or she can move onto the next level stealing from others and stores?

    pinkdragon36

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 4:57 PM on Jun. 5, 2010

  • Does she get an allowance? Maybe she just needs money like most teens do. Maybe she took it bc she thinks the family money is for all the family members. Just talk with her and work something out. Now if she's using the money for drugs, that's another thing. She'll start stealing items out of the house for that if you hide the money so get her some help and NOT with the police. Don't get her in that system unless necessary. It's all privatized now and will cost you a fortune for lawyer fees and support fees if they put her in detention. It's all a big business and they do NOT want to let her out or they will lose money. Try communicating with her first.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 5:21 PM on Jun. 5, 2010

  • DO NOT CALL THE COPS it will make her hate you. Talk talk and talk.She is ur DD and loves you very much. Some thing is going on (i.e drugs ,peer pressure, sex something) you tell her u love her and you want to work on this together and spend more time with her. Ask her why she is stealing and if you can tell she is lying give her some time.. YOU MUST SPEND TIME WITH HER AND SHE WILL OPEN UP go do things she likes like take her to a movie or the mall for an outfit or shoes . Im not saying it is ok to steal but everyone makes mistakes . She needs her mom right now this is the most important time in her life right now and she needs guidance. And yes she made need an allowance or let her get a summer /part time JOB!!!
    lendales_mommi

    Answer by lendales_mommi at 6:22 PM on Jun. 5, 2010

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