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Advice please

me and dh were recently going to get a divorce, he wanted one not me! we talked about it and he and i want to work it out, so its been going good for 2weeks its just he always has too drink on the weekends and i hate it because he has done some horrible things when he drinks, but hes only bad when his friends are around if hes drinking and its just us were great.. but how do i get him to understand that i need some alone time with him and i want him to be sober, another thing whats some ways to make our sexual relationship better different things to spice it up what do u do, and should i keep trying to make it work if he puts beer ahead of us or am i just being selfish b/c he loves to drink sometimes he doesnt come home on the weekends and thats where most of our problems are in our relationship thanks

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Asked by Anonymous at 2:12 AM on Jun. 7, 2010 in Relationships

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  • like if we are having a wonderful night and i want to go home and u know have sex or something or cuddle up on the couch and watch a movie or something but when he takes me out to eat or something its only a few hrs then he comes home buys beer drinks all night until the am or he will come home call his buddies and have them all over to drink he will tell me dont bitch i took u out earlier

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:15 AM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • If a married man doesn't come home at night and doesn't call and just shows up when he wants then there's something really bad going on. Your hubby needs to be reminded that he is married and is a father and he is not 18-21 anymore it is time for him to grow up and start being and acting like an adult cause right now he is acting like a child. You aren't his mother and nor do you need to act or be his mother you have your own children that he helped bring into this world he needs to help you raise them or get the hell out of your lives. He sounds like he has a drinking problem and your marriage and family life will not get any better till he gets help and stops the drinking.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:29 AM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • He's not interested in the marriage. Go ahead with the divorce preceedings like you planned. With the threat of divorce and he doesn't change his ways,he never will.

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:34 AM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • He told you he wanted a divorce, you don't want one, and now you're trying to fix the relationship? It sounds like he's waiting for you to get sick of it and agree to the divorce. He doesn't seem to care about your feelings or spending time with you, no married man interested in staying married would choose his friends over his wife and not come home.

    Answer by Scuba at 9:52 AM on Jun. 7, 2010

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