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i feel so bad for my dd.she was going to do cheerleading but some how they lost my email adress(some how)any way i asked her last night if she wanted to do cheerleading or soccer in the fall.she said she just cant do cheerleading.she said she cant do a cart wheel and all the other girls oldest was cheerleading capt in high school and ive had her working with her.her self esteem is so low and plumiting fast.i just dont know what to do to bulid her self esteem.we live in a big sports town,,,very competitive...

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Asked by cleo1977 at 8:38 AM on Jun. 7, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Try talking to her about what it IS she would LIKE to try? Sometimes they don't want to tell us something they THINK we don't want to hear. She may just want to do something,else.'

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:48 AM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • That is way too much to follow in a sister's footsteps like that. I agree. Ask her what she wants to do. She may be more academic than sports oriented. Let her be herself. She may want to compete in a spelling bee. No matter what SHE wants, support her. Who cares what the rest of the town does? This is about her. She might figure out the cure for cancer while the rest of the town is out cheerleading and playing soccer

    Answer by admckenzie at 8:51 AM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • opopop----she has been doing soccer for a while she is not on the elite team...she does do karate.... which she is pretty good at so that is one thing i do not want to give up...i am going down to oldest dd today so i will talk to her.. its funny now that she has her own dd i can go to her for advice.....when did that happen???????

    Answer by cleo1977 at 8:52 AM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • Why don't you put her in gymnastics first, so she can work on flexibility, tricks [the cartwheel] ;) It will help her build her skill, and by the time tryouts come around again, she'll be ready. And who knows, maybe she'll just stick with gymnastics. Either way, it'll get her involved in something, help her build confidence, make friends, and learn some competitive spirit!

    Answer by BaisMom at 11:13 AM on Jun. 7, 2010

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