For example, do you inform your children that they cannot say "you can't play with us" or "You can't play with her, she's my friend." , particularily in class group situations? Do you tell them they can only say "I don't want to play with you" if another child is being rude or too rough? When you speak of people of visible ethnicity do you tell them there are several races within the human race divided by skin colour, or do you tell them that some people have different hair colour, skin colour, languages, and ethnicities but we are all in fact only one race? I'm not trying to judge, although obviously I have a personal value I try to exercise in my own life. I'd just like an idea of where other opinions are at on that subject. I also think the idea of inclusiveness extends far beyond accepting people of other skin colours.
Answer by FelipesMom at 7:58 PM on Jun. 7, 2010
Answer by louise2 at 7:59 PM on Jun. 7, 2010
This is a tough question. I wrote one answer and didn't think I did a good job. I have 3 sons, they are now 30, 27, and 22. This is an area of parenting I did good with but I didn't have a plan. I was into non-sexist childrearing and had a plan for that. I think if you nurture empathy and related skills they it will transfer to things like racism and being kind to people with disabilities, ect.
We lived in university family housing at a large university for much of their childhood and there were few American families. They had friends from all over the world. They always had friends that were girls and played with kids that others might leave out because of disabilities or other differences.
The etnicities/race issue is still controversial, one of my sons wrote a paper on it for a class recently.
Answer by Gailll at 8:21 PM on Jun. 7, 2010
Answer by flatlanderjenn at 9:22 PM on Jun. 7, 2010