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Dont know what to make of this.....

OK, so i went into my SO's email (he had the password laying around the house), and i found this dating site that said that he had an acct with them, so i looked at it ...and sure enough, it had his eye color, bald, white, height,weight, it said that he was self employed, and that he was looking for a descriet relationship or just sex. I asked him about it , and he totally denied it.
He said that he has NEVER made a profile like that , and never would..he isnt that stupid he says. His email was FULL 9 pages full of emails, and he hasnt opened any of them. I looked in the profile page messages, and he hasnt open any of them either...there is actually NO activity pretty much on it, other than what was written on the profile itself. There wasnt even a picture.
The profile was done back in jan/10.

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:08 PM on Jun. 7, 2010 in Relationships

Answers (16)
  • Sounds like he did it but then had second thoughts on it. Or already found his slut bag.

    Answer by SaraP1989 at 11:10 PM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • OK , so continue.......he asked if it was by chance one of those things that you fill out thinking it was something else, and it turns out to be something bogus....he seems pretty sincere. And he leaves his cell phone around lock on it, he left his password around, i mean...ive never EVER caught him in a lie before.
    Im so unsure of what to think...anyone have any advice?

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:10 PM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • I bet he did it because he was curious to see if anyone would still want him now that he is involved. He didn't open any of the emails or follow up with any of the women. I would make sure he deletes the profile and tell him you will be checking up on him for a while to make sure he isn't screwing around. If he is being honest he will not care if you look through his stuff occasionally, if he gets all puffed up about the invasion of privacy, then he has something to hide.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 11:12 PM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • hmmm see, i dont think he is really talking to anyone...he hardly EVER goes on the computer, and he works with his cousin...he goes to work , and comes straight here. He doesnt go out anywhere, he isnt secretive with his phone by any means...i can read a text message that just came in and he doesnt care. Heck, he didnt even care that i was in his never even came up, he never asked why i was in it or anything, i asked if he was mad i was in it , and he said no.
    Im thinking that perhaps he DID make it , during one of our fights (not too sure if we were going to get back together or not), perhaps he doesnt want to tell me in fear that it will start problems, that he doesnt want started just because he didnt do anything.....but i still would like to know either way. Ive already told him, that he isnt getting sex until i get tested...and he said very calmly....ok.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:15 PM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • Red Flag.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:15 PM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • Keep in mind that a lot of those emails can come from innocent things. you sign up for a newsletter and they sell your email acct and you get spammed.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 11:16 PM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • i would just trust him and believe what he's saying if something like this happens again then i would be worried hes lieing!

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:16 PM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • SleepingBeautee....HE told me , without me asking to just go in and deactivate it ....he also said that he was going to delete the hotmails as well, because the internet was becoming too much of a drama. I can see that, it has been a drama concerning our friends and what not, he actually deactivated his facebook on his own last week, (because he is never on it).
    And if your reason is the reason...i can see that , i mean..we all need a flattery once in a while...but to go that far, was a bit too much...IF this was the case.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:17 PM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • From what you have said, I don't think there is anything to worry about. You know him, if something is weird you would know it.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 11:18 PM on Jun. 7, 2010

  • Did you check his email trash? You looked in his email for a reason. He may only be opening some then trashing them. He may have other profiles on the same sight or different ones. GL.

    Answer by KARRIEMARIE at 11:24 PM on Jun. 7, 2010

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