the way I thought I would yet.
When my daughter was born...I was in shock, I sobbed uncontrollably and didn't want to hold her. I know how terrible that sounds. It's not that I didn't want her but I was overwhelmed. I had problems with her father...he left me at 9 months pregnant and didn't show up for the birth because my parent's did not like him and he could not grow up and be there for me. Shortly after my daughter was born I was put on depression meds for Post Partum Depression but only stayed on them for 4 weeks (I guess that was a mistake) I got off them and finally told the dad to take a hike and moved back in with my parents.
Of course the father caused a lot of problems...acting like he was going to try to take the baby and all that kind of stuff and in the midst of it all I never got the maternal feelings toward my baby that I thought I would.
I love her, don't get me wrong...
More to come...
Asked by Anonymous at 10:17 AM on Jun. 8, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)
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Answer by amileegirl at 10:22 AM on Jun. 8, 2010
It sounds like you have been through a lot. It's interesting that you feel you had to include "I love her, don't get me wrong...". It's okay to not love your baby. Let me repeat, it's okay to not love your baby. First you have to admit that and then you have to be willing to accept that it will happen on it's own or do what you need to do so that you can love your baby.
I had real problems with my second son. He had seizures and a near miss with sids. I had to do cpr. My husband was supposed to watching him while he napped so I could take a shower and fell asleep. I slept with him on my chest because I was always afraid he would die. Then around 12 mo he started having FTT and horrible diarrhea. Then he got asthma.
Answer by Gailll at 10:28 AM on Jun. 8, 2010
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Answer by KFree907 at 10:33 AM on Jun. 8, 2010
His neurologist reffered me to a counselor that worked with parents that had kids with medical problems and I started being able to connect with my son and stop worring that he was going to die every day. The seizures stopped when he was 3. It wasn't until he was 4 that I really started feeling love for him.
When he was 5 I had another baby and I became very ill. My oldest son had FTT and medical problems too (not as bad) and all of us had genetic testing. It turned out I and all 3 of my sons have a rare genetic immune disfunction disease that causes toddlers to have FTT.
Answer by Gailll at 10:36 AM on Jun. 8, 2010