I am frutrated every day with my 20 year old stepson. I have 2 children 13 and 11 and we have a 7 month old together. My stepson has been out of school for 3 years. The first 2 1/2 years he didn't work. He finally got his first real job in the last 7 months. He only is working weekends. All week when he is home he sleeps or plays video games. He comes and goes so he is not always home. When he is and I'm cleaning and doing the normal chores I am resentful and in a bad mood. When he isn't here I'm happy. I bitch at his dad all the time for 3 years. I think he should contribute. If he can't financially. Then help around the house. His dad sais he's grown and I can't force him to do chores. My kids do chores everyday more then then my stepson. He shouldn't compare my kids with his. Mine are children. My husband is probably sick of the nagging help!
Answer by newmomma14 at 7:56 PM on Jun. 8, 2010
Answer by gracefulsky at 2:27 PM on Jun. 8, 2010
Sit down with him and talk to him about life as an adult.
Go over rules in the home and contribution to living there.
Write up a contract where he will agree to paying money towards rent, and share of utilities, hos own food....encourage him to spend his free time during the week searching for a fulltime job, do some volunteer work in his field of interest/study and let him know he has until the end of the year to live like an adult in your home.
If he has an issue with it, let him know that these are the same things he will pay for and have to do once he has his own apartment and its easier to get experience at home doing these basic necessities of life.....parents are easier on a young adult starting out, than a landlord.
Answer by virginiamama71 at 2:30 PM on Jun. 8, 2010
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Answer by mommom2000 at 2:54 PM on Jun. 8, 2010