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For those who have gone through the adoption process.

What does it involve? Does it vary? What did yours involve? I'm speaking in terms of cost, travel, background checks, etc. Did you need to be evaluated? How did all of that work? I have some friends who are looking into it and I'm just wondering. If you know of any good sources that could answer any questions, that would be great too.

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Asked by MamaRae85 at 2:49 PM on Jun. 11, 2010 in Adoption

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  • Every process is different.
    Foster-adopt- done through the state/county. Some states require you to be licensed foster parents before being considered for adoption, there are infants and older children available. Every state has different laws regarding adoption. Background checks are done and there is little to no cost involved. Many children have a subsidy attached to them until they are 18.

    Domestic- done through an agency or attorney. Private, open, semi open or closed are the options. Paperwork and fees involved. Again, every state is different regarding laws about TPR, etc...This process typically involves an expectant mother choosing the adoptive parents and the wait could be days up to years.
    Embryo- I know very little about..
    International- 4 layers of gov't. TONS of paperwork and fees... waits are unpredictable and country programs can close with little to no warning.

    Answer by mcginnisc at 3:02 PM on Jun. 11, 2010

  • Continued...
    We adopted internationally. We began the process on 3/10/05 and finished our paperwork on 8/15/05. Our dossier was sent to China on 9/7/05, logged in on 10/10/05 and we received our referral on 2/1/07. We traveled on 3/29/07 and came home on 4/14/07.
    The current wait for China is now over 4 years from the time a dossier is received in China to the time a referral is sent. It is lengthening every month as well.
    Some country programs match very quickly and then travel is a year later.. some countries require multiple trips.
    Our adoption was approximately $26K and over 2 years.
    Please pm me if you have more questions and I will try to help.

    Answer by mcginnisc at 3:07 PM on Jun. 11, 2010

  • I'm pretty late with this, but not all international adoptions take as long as mcginnisc's. We just finished ours up in December of last year. Here is our time table for a Russian adoption of a boy 22 mos old on Gotchya Day:

    Feb 2009: signed with agency
    Early June 2009: turned in dossier
    Middle June 2009: received or son's referral
    Oct 31 2009: traveled to meet son for first trip
    Early Dec 2009: returned to Russia for court/pick-up
    Dec. 30 2009: home forever

    Our costs were about $40,000 with travel and expenses. Russia has a 10 day wait period between court and pick up day which used to be waived frequently, but is now hardly ever waived. We elected to stay in Russia for that 10 day wait. We were gone a total of 21 days on our 2nd trip and 5 days for the first trip. There is a ton of paper work on this end before you travel the first time and then again before your 2nd trip. cont....

    Answer by MinnieMagic at 3:56 PM on Sep. 3, 2010

  • There are things anywhere from physicals, homestudys, more physicals if you run long on time before court and numerous other odds and ends you have to go through to adopt from Russia. There are 2 dossiers. One if for the MOE to put you on the list to be referred a child. The second is the court dossier which the judge will use. Basically they are one in the same, just that the court dossier has things added to it from the first dossier. You can help manage the time you wait based on the gender, age range and medical needs of your child. If you expand these things then your wait will be decreased. We had 10 mos from start to finish. We asked for a boy (shorter wait) between the ages of 9mos-28mos with "mild correctible" medical needs, which is the lowest form you can ask for from Russia. If you have any other questions, please feel free to send me a message. Good luck to your friends!

    Answer by MinnieMagic at 4:00 PM on Sep. 3, 2010

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