So, I'm new here and I've been browsing this section to find there are lots of questions with people asking about the process of adopting. Which is best/cheapest/etc and answers where people go through pros/cons of fost/adopt, international, and domestic. I know I can get all these details from website research so that is not what I am looking for. I want to hear your stories and WHY you chose what you chose. Why was international/foster/domestic best for you and why did you rule others out. Please don't argue which is best or if someone has a "bad" reason. I just want to see about individual stories and I feel your reasons were valid for your family. I just want to know what they were while trying to navigate my own decision! Thanks ladies!
We started out by sending letters to all kinds of agencies in our state asking about adoption. Some of the responses we got were very shocking focusing more on how much money we could get our hands on not what kind of parents we would be. Or they would put an emphasis on how they could get us a healthy child. So we decided to go the opposite route and adopt special needs children from the state. There are thousands of children that are considered "unadoptable". It turned out to be great. The cost for us was nothing but it varies state to state. Some states do charge a very small fee.
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frogdawg...."My bet is we will go cost/adopt". (FOSTER ADOPT???)
We are working actively on our home to pass muster. It may take many months but we are Fully committed. I am also excited about fostering and I have some thoughts about transitions from one home back to another. At the very least I am looking forward to providing a safe temporary haven for a child until they can return home.
FROGDAWG, I am so excited for you! It's challenging, but you have seen from the SW side how much need there is. Good luck to you, friend!
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