im haveing big issues with my son he wont listen at all and its just gotten to become a even more bigger issue.. i cant take him out in public because he acts out and screams like a girl for example me and my bf went to the trip to the mall last night an he acted out with his screaming like a girl and touching things and laughing when we tell him no.. im at my wits end my bf has 2 other kids from a other realationship and we want to be able to do fun things like going to the zoo and parks and kid friendly things together with summer just around the corner, but with my sons behavior that wont happen and those tri wont be enjoyable can any ladies help on any other ideas because me and my bf tried counting we tried timeouts and taking things away and no special treats or snacks even a show on tv we took that away. please helpAnswer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 11:00 AM on Jun. 12, 2010
The reason you are having problems is because all of the things you are doing aren't effective parenting techniques. You need to learn new skills. I laughed when you actually included counting. It teaches kids they don't need to behave right away, if at all. Here is a famous article about how to get the behavior you want without saying no. It's a famous article.
Time-outs teach kids to sneak and lie. Behavior gets worse and they resent their parents. It does not stop bad behavior or teach good behavior.
Answer by Gailll at 11:06 AM on Jun. 12, 2010
My kids were so well behavied that some people were concerned that I beat them! I never hit or punished them. I knew that was ineffective parenting. I knew I wanter to be a great parent and enjoy my kids. I can thank Elizabeth Crary. I read her book Without Spanking or Spoiling When my oldest son was a toddler and it shaped my parenting forever.
Her book Love & Limits is a good first book. She has a web site called star parenting. This book is a problem solving based parenting method placing responsibility for the child's behavior on the parent. It's not that your child won't listen (you really mean obey) it's that you aren't being an effective parent.
Answer by Gailll at 11:14 AM on Jun. 12, 2010
You should never swat your child as the first poster suggested. It never teaches good behavior. It is such a bad practice that it is illegal in some countries. People on cm will tell you to pop, hit, smack, spank, slap, bite, and do other horrible things to your child. It won't get the kind of results that you want in the long run.
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