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how to find the answer to huge family skeletons?

my hubby and i found out from a family friend that his parents are second cousin? how can i find out that it is true or not without asking them?

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Asked by myrandabrown13 at 1:08 AM on Jun. 14, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Ask for a family tree.

    Answer by canadianmom1974 at 1:14 AM on Jun. 14, 2010

  • It's not terrible to be second cousins.

    Answer by admckenzie at 1:18 AM on Jun. 14, 2010

  • no but its not great either...where do we ask for a family tree at?

    Answer by myrandabrown13 at 1:31 AM on Jun. 14, 2010

  • Seconds cousins are still incest.

    Answer by SaraP1989 at 1:39 AM on Jun. 14, 2010

  • i agree you must understand how that can eat at someone not knowing the truth...especially if the are "christian" and judge you and your family your whole life...

    Answer by myrandabrown13 at 1:52 AM on Jun. 14, 2010

  • Does your husband have a baby book? I think some of them have family trees. Not that they would put that in there?

    Answer by SaraP1989 at 1:55 AM on Jun. 14, 2010

  • Tell them you are working on your family tree, something to pass down to your chilldren. Then start getting names grand parents great grandparents, aunst uncles, brothers, sister cousins etc. It is very commone for people to work on their family history now so asking under this pretense wouldnt seem out of the ordinary. Once you start getting names and information you should be able to put iot together pretty quickly.

    Your library should also have resources for working on ancestry.

    Answer by 3_ring_circus_ at 2:14 AM on Jun. 14, 2010

  • Go to

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:24 AM on Jun. 14, 2010

  • ask who their parents are, and so on. and connect the dots with it.

    finding out how you are related to someone really is not that hard.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:29 AM on Jun. 14, 2010

  • second cousins are able to be legally married in many states as far as I know. also, i have been doing genealogy (family tree research) for years for myself and many friends. i promise you that MANY people have intertwining branches in their trees, and if you have royalty in your family you definitely do. most of them are just a little (but not much) further back. some relationships are closer... i would imagine that this did not come up sooner because it is not an issue for those involved, so if you just ask as suggested you can probably find out easily.

    Answer by figaro8895 at 8:08 AM on Jun. 14, 2010

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