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Do you think children with out a mother has issues?

Like if they just up and left you and chose drugs over you but you were young.

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Asked by Carrie_123 at 4:01 PM on Jun. 16, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • not anymore than a child without a father.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:02 PM on Jun. 16, 2010

  • It all depends on how the child is raised from then on out. The child will always be upset about it, but if they still have a loving family then they may understand. Everyone handles things differently.


    Answer by NAT24ROXY24 at 4:04 PM on Jun. 16, 2010

  • It would be hard no matter what parent it is. Sure their life wasn't peaches and cream up to that point either, because if a parents chooses those things over their child I could only assume they were doing those things infront of their kids at that point too.

    Answer by 2BlondeBabies at 4:05 PM on Jun. 16, 2010

  • It depends. It greatly depends. How young was the child when the parent left? Who was there to care for them?
    If the people .. let's say a grandparent .. was there to take care of them when said parent left. If the grandparent babied the child the rest of their life, treated them like a victim, etc.. Then yes the child would have issues. If they're told the truth and helped to move on from it, shown they're better off then they might have little to no issues.

    I think they'll have some resentment, some questions, and some feeling of abandonment.. but less so if the situation they went to was better and a lot more solid.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 5:16 PM on Jun. 16, 2010

  • Yes. I think a child could wonder why their mom would decide they weren't important enough to stick around for them. It is bound to hurt the child. But then again, if the mom has her own problems and doesn't have a handle on them, even if she is present for the child, she may not take care of that child as well as she should.

    Answer by CafeMochaMom1 at 5:27 PM on Jun. 16, 2010

  • I think there is no way to answer this. Many children have had mothers who are not there for them. Grandma and Grandpa raise them while they are gone. Aunt or uncle. Dad has them with step mom. Or just dad by himself raising the child. Foster care. The list is endless. Yes children miss their mother. But despite that many children can and do turn out better than fine. It is about who is supporting you, encouraging you, the environment you are in. So many factors. You may miss out and feel the loss of that mother or the idea of having YOUR BIOLOGICAL mother not being part of your life. However grief and loss does not have to be something that disables you for the rest of your life.

    Answer by frogdawg at 12:04 AM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • Well, I think when a child see's that a friend 's patent are together and happy living together. It does make them sad and wish that her family were together too. And happy like her friends. And wonders why her family isn't the same way. you would just have to explain to your daughter that you and her dad had problems that were so bad that you both had to leave each

    Answer by incarnita at 8:40 AM on Jun. 17, 2010

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