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What do you do with a 12 yr old boy that lies all the time and won't follow rules?

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Asked by Pumpkin4737 at 12:23 PM on Jun. 17, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • I had a friend that had the same problem. Great solution. It worked very well. She and her husband became this child's best friend. Walked them to school, (walked him to his locker even), picked him up from school, no friends, no tv, no computer, no video games, no phone, no ipod. If the child was done with school before work was done, the child had to come sit in his father's office until work was done and did his homework. The boy had to work to get each of his privileges back. The last of which was the picking up and dropping off. He needs to know you are the parent. Depends on you as to how much control you need to take back. If there was a relapse, it went back to square one. The parent even talked to the teachers to let them know of the process and got daily reports as to how the child was doing. Let us know how it turns out! Good luck!

    Answer by Lifes-A-Dance at 12:28 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • Lifesadance's friend was just ludicrous for doing that. It doesn't even make sense. What is he lying about? Silly stuff or important stuff? What rules are being broken? First I'd make sure there were not too many rules being set down for him. Maybe that's why he is rebelling. Next I'd ask him what part of the rule (he is breaking) isn't working for him and why? Communicate with the boy. He's trying to tell you something with his actions but you are not listening you are probably just reacting and punishing him. LISTEN to him. Let him tell you what's up.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:10 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

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