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Air Force Military

My husband recently told our family that he was being sent to South Korea, in which our family would not be allowed to go.

My Question to you is What are the chances the Air Force would send a Married man to a combat zone?

Is it something he would actually have to sign up for?

Is there anyone I can actually get in contact with to see if he is even signed up for it as his wife?

He also mentioned something about relocation where he can "appeal" South Korea and then switch with someone else where he takes there base and then they take Korea? Is this even true?

If you would please answer these questions to best of your ability and email me at your earliest convienence. Thank you
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Asked by UAFwife at 4:36 PM on Jun. 17, 2010 in Politics & Current Events

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  • Korea as of right now is not considered a combat zone. I'm not sure if you can call anybody and find out if he requested it or not, or if anybody would even tell you since alot of commands see it as his decision to tell you if he volunteered for it or not. As for sending a married man into combat, why would a married Airman be exempt from it when a marrine Marine, Soldier or Sailor ain't?

    Answer by BlueCollarMama at 4:53 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • Sorry I hit send too fast, in answer to your last question I know in the Marine Corps there are certain times when a Marine can protest his orders and get them switched, but I know it only works if the command is willing to make the changes and it's only allowed once per career.

    Answer by BlueCollarMama at 4:58 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • A person does not have to sign up to be sent to Korea. It is a one year unaccommpanied tour. There is no one you can call about it and honestly you shouldnt try to call anyone anyway. It is your husband's career. Korea is not considered a war zone and the military does not care if someone is married or not. Being married has nothing to do with anything. Your husband still has a job to do. It sounds like you do not trust your husband and you think that he volunteered to go to Korea without you. That is between you and your husband, keep your marriage issues away from his job.


    Answer by FL2AK at 5:27 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • What FL2AK said, and ... Everyone that is career military will pull at least one remote/unaccompanied tour for a year. Yes, this was 'signed' up for when your husband joined. The military can (and will) send him anywhere he is needed, for as long as needed whether he is married or not. That is also something he agreed to. If he is slotted for a remote, trying to 'switch' is pretty pointless because he's going to pull a remote regardless of where it is. Whether the pp is correct and you don't trust him, or whether you just don't want to stick out the year alone, this is something YOU signed on for when you married a career military man. He has his job to do, and you have yours. Nope, it isn't easy. What you should be doing now is getting your kids ready for this, making arrangements for things like lawn care (if you can't), sign up with the wives club if you haven't, etc. Make sure the vehicle/s are good to go ~ cont.

    Answer by Farmlady09 at 7:56 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • Considering the other locations he could be sent, Korea is not bad. Yes, they can and will send married men there. No, it doesn't have to be requested.

    The military is not just a job, it's a lifestyle. When he signed up, he agreed to go where he was needed. Part of being a military wife is accepting the fact they have control over his life and yours. You can't pick and choose.

    If he requests to not go to Korea, they can easily send him to another base halfway around the world. There are worse duty stations than Korea, you know. We are fighting two wars.

    Answer by mancosmomma at 7:59 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • cont. ~ make sure things like the will/poa are up to date, and definitely hammer out ANY issues with pay/emergencies. Decide how much each of you will need while he's gone. A good laptop is invaluable, esp. if you have kids. That way they can see daddy when they talk to him. Phone calls will be limited most of the time, but a laptop can help with that. Even if you don't know or have much in common with the other wives, getting to know a few will help ~ and ~ missing the DH is a huge common ground. So is dealing with the stress, the lonelies, and the children. They will be stressed too so make plans to try and keep them busy (which keeps you busy). I did this for a lot of years and so have many other spouses. Just make up your mind that this is what is going to 'be' and start dealing with it. The sooner the better, for all of you.

    Answer by Farmlady09 at 8:02 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • Everyone does Korea. Everyone. You may have the opportunity to visit, but no, you cannot go. And no, he can't get out of it. If the military wanted him to have a family they would have issued him one.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:13 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • LOL...if the military had wanted him to have a family,they would have issued him one. How true/ Family is there for support but the military man and his bosses are the important unit and his DUTY ranks as #1. I'm speaking as a former Air Force wife whose DH spent a year in SE ASia during the late 1960's and almost got shot down by Russian Migs and then a few years later, spent another year long remote tour without family. Then there were so manyTDY's that lasted anywhere from 2 weeks to 3 months. He was a navigator in fighter jets. Risky and dangerous. He was a career officer for 21 years.You just get used to it and you feel like a single Mother. LOL. You can manage,though.Good luckl!

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:36 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • I thought S Korea was now changed to where you can bring has to be a three yr tour though...and it has to be approved.

    Answer by Soniam301 at 8:50 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

  • Soniam301: I saw that in ArmyTimes or something.

    Answer by matthewscandi at 9:34 PM on Jun. 17, 2010

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