if two people love each other BUT want very different things in life? We married young and as we've gotten older and started a family we both want the complete opposite out of life. He wants to live in a big city (NYC) where we have no friends or family so he can rise up in his career, whereas I want to live in the suburbs, close to friends and family. This is constantly an issue in our relationship and I'm afraid that one of us will never be happy. :(Answer Question
Answer by Chloesmama10 at 1:42 AM on Jun. 18, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 1:42 AM on Jun. 18, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 1:43 AM on Jun. 18, 2010
Answer by Chloesmama10 at 1:45 AM on Jun. 18, 2010
I really don't know what to say, but i want to share with you a phrase that has helped me alot in my marriage, -- nothing worth having in this life is easy-- If it were me, in this economic times, i would set a goal, maybe 3 to 5 years from now when things settle down a little bit, give it a shot, go for 1 year, IF he could find a good job BEFORE we left. and if i felt unhappy or depressed after that first year, then the deal would be that we would move back, if me and the kids were happy, then stay.
With technology these days, you could stay in really close contact with family, and if he furthers his career, then you will have plenty of money for a plane ticket home to see family right?
Answer by katamike at 2:00 AM on Jun. 18, 2010
Answer by outstandingLove at 2:20 AM on Jun. 18, 2010
Answer by outstandingLove at 2:22 AM on Jun. 18, 2010
Answer by admckenzie at 8:28 AM on Jun. 18, 2010
I agree with the others about compromise. Sometimes the best things in life end up being a total surprise to you. While you might not want to live in a big city, you might find that it suits you well. I would suggest committing to 2 years for any move though, since moving can be one of the most stressful things to happen in your life, giving yourself a quick out won't necessarily benefit you in the end. What it comes down to is that home is where you make it, and it's more important to be with the people you love and that make your family.
Answer by Anonymous at 8:51 AM on Jun. 18, 2010
Answer by missanc at 9:41 AM on Jun. 18, 2010