You should both discuss your reasons - you for wanting one, him for not wanting one right now. Talk about it openly and honestly, and with respect for each other's feelings (no guilt trips that the other one doesn't agree - you shouldn't feel guilty for wanting one, and he shouldn't feel guilty for not wanting one).
Then, see if you can come together on a compromise - like, instead of "no" or "now", it's "next yr".
But, if you can't compromise or come to an agreement, then I'm sorry, but you need to not have another one. Neither partner should be forcing more kids on the other. To try to make him have more (and be a good dad to the kid of course) is just as bad as a man who tries to force a woman to have more kids than she wants to have. You need to both respect each others feelings.
I'm sorry, I know it's hard to do this though! good luck!
at 8:45 AM on Jun. 22, 2010