DH & I are separated. I have realized that I don't like his parenting choices because he doesn't really discipline my SD (15) or DD (2), and when he does, he is very inconsistent. When we were together, I did most of the parenting, and did a lot of things that worked for SD. When SD & DH moved out, he dropped all of them. She abused her privileges & began failing multiple classes (15 zeros in ONE class!!). Her egg donor ("mom") bought her a cell phone & he puts no restrictions on it at all. He says that since her mom bought it for her that he can't put rules on it ("mom" lives 100 miles away & only sees SD once a month if she's not "busy"). I told him that if that b*tch would be making the rules for our home, then he could kiss me goodbye forever.
But the main thing is this: BM abused SD to the point that she has PTSD. SD has lived with us for 2 years, but we still don't have legal custody. Why?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:30 AM on Jun. 23, 2010 in Relationships
Anon 7:50- You may want to take a few reading comprehension classes. She said" so that would have paid for a good part of her college" Her meaning the stepdaughter.
Answer by Anonymous at 7:53 AM on Jun. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 7:41 AM on Jun. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 7:50 AM on Jun. 23, 2010
hmmm, from my point of view ALL of the adults in this poor girls life are not mature enough to handle anything at all. The things you mention to separate from your DH is petty. For one child support is for SD benefit, NOT yours. Two, there are other ways to pay for school. I agree that dear daughter's mental stability needs to be address before you can do anything about her eating habits. Also, you can control what food comes into the home if you do ALL the food shopping yourself. Sounds like to me though, that you don't want to have to do these extra things for your SD's life to be better, but that is part of being any kind of parent. If your DH is not going to step up and help is own daughter the right way, THEN you need to shut up and do it yourself.
Answer by soonmommyof3 at 8:17 AM on Jun. 23, 2010
If you truly have no respect for him then no, you two shouldn't be married. UNLESS you're both willing to go to counseling & work something out, then that means you are willing to try which is enough to save a marriage. There is always room for compromise.
Answer by samurai_chica at 8:30 AM on Jun. 23, 2010
Answer by NannyB. at 8:48 AM on Jun. 23, 2010
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