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how can one prepare for a strong marriage?

38 years old.. in a monogamous 3 year relationship.,, ready for marriage & babies.

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:02 PM on Jun. 27, 2008 in Relationships

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  • just by trust and learning all you can about them and just trusting yourself and him

    Answer by Patience1 at 11:20 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

  • Trust, respect and remembering that while you will always love him there will be moments you really dont like him. Life is not a fairy tale because even the Grimm Brothers didnt touch on what "happily ever after" entails. Marriage is a promise a comitment. Keep the romance; go on dates even after the "I do". Find a hoby that relaxes you as an individual and find a common intrest such as biking or bowling where you have togeather time.

    Answer by h3art2h0m3 at 11:39 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

  • at 38 y.o. You are both probably past all the petty stages the young seem to go through and 3 years monogamous is great as well.  Open communication is key and it is never 50/50.....sometimes it's 90/10 or 70/30  Keep talking to each other and, pick your fights if you have to fight, some things just arn't worth fighting about or for.

    Preparing for marriage - Equality in Marriage Institute


    Answer by vbruno at 12:04 AM on Jun. 28, 2008

  • Ask advice of couples that are happily married by your standards.

    Commitment is what marriage is about. You make a decision you are going to do everything you can before you would even consider leaving the relationship including looking at yourself as part of the problem. Learn about what makes marriage work. In your situation, you have to consider that it may change when you get married. Don't let it throw you off. I would also recommend a year of marriage before getting pregnant. It will give you time to adjust if there are changes before you become parents.

    Answer by manna1qd at 12:05 AM on Jun. 28, 2008

  • Actually. You don't go into a strong marriage, You make it a strong marriage everyday. It takes a lot of sacrifice from both sides. But its worth it.

    Answer by MunkyS at 1:55 AM on Jun. 28, 2008

  • the best thingi can tell u is lay out what u want from the beginning make sure they are secure in the relationship tell them what u expect find out what they expect discuss things that could go wrong and how youd handle them discuss male friends and female friends if you have them make sure hes able to deal with u having friends of the oppisite sex discuss whos going to do what chores how moneys going to be handled when and if u want more or any kids options if you try and cant discuss your sexlife good and bad parts marriage is a serious commitment make sure yall are on the same page i did it and 15 years later im still married hope it helps ya

    Answer by hipie at 12:42 AM on Jun. 30, 2008

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