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What things to you do to add structure and discipline to your daily routine?

I have 2 girls age 5 and 7 who do not listen, do not help when asked, do not go to bed, and will not sleep in their own beds. My husband and I take full responsibility for not being consistent with them. We need your ideas!! Thank you!

Stephanie

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proud_mama2

Asked by proud_mama2 at 3:09 AM on Jun. 24, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Start the discipline now and show them that momma and daddy are the parents and there not consistence, consistences, consistences, very important child want discipline.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:18 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • Figure out the rules together, you and your husband, then explain the rules and the consequences for breaking the rules to your children. Then you HAVE TO FOLLOW THROUGH!!! If you've decided to remove privileges or limit activities as consequences, you absolutely have to follow through no matter what temporary inconveniences that may cause.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:31 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • They each have a favorite thing, activity, etc that you can withhold if they do not cooperate. You need to discuss together what your strategy will be. One of my friends uses stars that her girls get (on a big chart) for making their bed, being nice to each other, doing SIMPLE chores, putting their laundry in the hamper, etc. Then they get a reward evey week to 2 weeks. Sometimes it's going out to eat, a trip to a museum, special ice cream treat, etc. BOTH of their girls have to complete the star chart, not just one girl, to get the reward. This has actually fostered partnership between the girls and they help each other out with the tasks! Kids need to know beforehand what the reward will be. It needs to be something they would really enjoy, of course. Don't know if this would work for you or not. Just one idea. Allso good books with ideas out there. Good luck.
    elizabr

    Answer by elizabr at 8:01 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • And of course the things you listed, especially bedtime and sleeping in their beds would be on the chart.
    elizabr

    Answer by elizabr at 8:03 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • Things are done in the exact same way, and time veryday, no room for error! GL
    JoLee12345

    Answer by JoLee12345 at 8:56 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • yes i think you should sit with them and all of you make a fresh set of house rules. (just like 5 main rules to follow, like listen to mom and dad, do your chores, respect each other etc) and come up with a reward and punishment system that will work for them. i like the chart idea but thats too much for me lol, mine just knows that if she bahaves well and do what i ask then she will get to do fun things, and if she misbehaves then she will be on punishment for the day and have her tv priveledges removed.
    secondtyme520

    Answer by secondtyme520 at 9:28 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • Great suggestions above and definitely you and your husband MUST form a "united front". You need to be on the same page and follow through together every single time. Otherwise they will soon figure out that they can get away with things by playing you two against one another. Good luck, little kids can be evil geniuses!! lol

    shanlaree

    Answer by shanlaree at 9:37 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • Wow, this is some great advice ladies. I appreciate your input and will be sitting down with my husband to go over this.
    proud_mama2

    Answer by proud_mama2 at 9:55 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

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