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does anyone have any advice?

ok heres the thing im with a guy who plays video games all day does nothing for money.......he only cleans the house and hes good to me but i hate having to be the worker while hes stay at home play-buddies with our 10 month old baby.....what do i do?i do love him but somethings gotta change or is it ok

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:18 AM on Jun. 24, 2010 in Relationships

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  • If money is always tight and your not getting ahead then yes getting him to get a part time job would be great but you also want to think about the daycare expence that will be taken out of pocket if you both work so if you both work oppisite shifts then that would help alot. Talk with him and let him know how you feel about what he is doing and not doing for you and the baby.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:22 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • tell him to ACT like a MAN, girl i would NOT be supporting 2 kids...the 10mnth old is MINE and thats fine but he needs to get his grown ass up and find a JOB...even if its a part time job @ a fast food place...he isnt helping bringing in money but hes using up electricity...GL...i didnt mean to sound like a B..but i would take that crap
    lhernandez7208

    Answer by lhernandez7208 at 3:23 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • THX GIRLS I REALLY FEEL DEPRESSED ALL THE TIME CUZ IM ALWAYS SO WORRIED ABOUT HOW IMMA PAY FOR THIS OR HOW IMMA PAY FOR THAT AND HE SAYS DNT WORRY WE'LL FIGURE IT OUT LATER AND IHERNANDEZ U DONT SOUND LIKE A BITCH U SOUND HONEST
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:26 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • is he just not getting a job? Or was there an agreement with him not working for a while??

    Why is it okay for women to be SAHMs but dads cannot. Or else they are at home playing... you said yourself he cleans.

    My opinion, you need to tell him how you feel about it. And see what he says and go from there.
    MomNbabyGirl009

    Answer by MomNbabyGirl009 at 4:04 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • I agree with the other moms. He needs to man-up and step up to the plate. How old is he? He plays video games all day? Not that video games are bad but he could be doing something more productive with his time. For instance, spending that quality time with your child (playing outside, library, parks) or looking for work, volunteering etc.

    That stress is not good for you as the only bread-winner and you should be able to talk to him about it. If he freaks out and doesn't want to listen, that's a red flag. His heart should be open and be willing to make changes that will better everyone in the family. Sometimes, figuring it out later can be a little too late. I've learned that from experience.
    MidwestWAHM

    Answer by MidwestWAHM at 4:14 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • If he is being the SAHM then what do you expect him to do? What do you think many SAHM's do? What would you do with you son if he got a job?
    IMAMOM2-2KIDS

    Answer by IMAMOM2-2KIDS at 6:41 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • I'm a SAHM. I do a lot of different things, ranging from very "hands on" with the kids when they were little to volunteering in their schools and other volunteer stuff. I don't have a problem with SAHD's either. BUT - the thing is, whether you're a SAHM or a SAHD, there needs to be a few ground rules. 1) Is the parent at home taking good care of the child(ren)? Because honestly, "playing video games all day" doesn't sound like he's really "parenting" - it sounds more like hanging out, making sure the kid doesn't get hurt sort of thing. (He should be doing stuff with your ds, cleaning house, doing laundry, shopping, cooking, etc.) 2) Can your family afford for one of you to stay home? 3) Are you BOTH ok with the situation - one of you staying home? Whether it's a wife who resents her dh staying home or a husband who resents his dw staying home - both people need to be ok with one parent working and the other at home.
    sailorwifenmom

    Answer by sailorwifenmom at 9:01 AM on Jun. 24, 2010

  • Tell him how you feel and figure out if you want to live like this
    starestrada

    Answer by starestrada at 2:18 PM on Jun. 24, 2010

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