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Can u be n love with 2 guys at once? part 2

well i thought i was in love w/dh we have been together 5yrs and we have a son together but since he was born he started drinking alot alot and hanging out w/friends and he never did that before!! and i love him but im really tired of him breaking promises to me and our son but on days when hes sober its great

this other guy is so nice and caring and im having feelings for him like big time

dh tells me all the time he wants a divorce, b/c i hate his drinking but loves me when hes not drinking i dont get it but i feel like i love them both

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Asked by Anonymous at 2:43 AM on Jun. 25, 2010 in Relationships

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  • It sounds like you need to work on your marriage and figure out what is going on first then if you call it quits you can think about the feelings for the other guy. Bringing another person into a already rocky situation just spells trouble.


    Answer by 3_ring_circus_ at 2:47 AM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • Its possible yes but the feelings you might be having for this other man may be due to the fact of how your husband is treating you.

    Answer by angelluvgoddess at 2:50 AM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • IMO, NO. I think you're just looking at the grass on the other side of the fence. The grass is always greener on the other side. Have you talked to your DH about any of this? If he won't agree to quit, leave him. That will give him a rude awakening, and if he wants to be with you, he will change.

    Answer by SAMNMAYASMOM at 3:10 AM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • Ok, put it in perspective. The other man knows you are married right. If he is truly honorable then he would not encourage your feelings towards him. Right now you are going through a tough time with your DH and any guy that is nice to you "seems" like the better man. Mama, you need to step back and look at the whole picture. I hope every thing works out for you but seek therapy before you seek the comfort of another man.


    Answer by pnwmom at 3:39 AM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • look deal with the issues you have at home and stop talking to this other guy. work on your marriage or get out. its not a hard concept really. all you are doing is creating emotional baggage. and i always say this, how is the other man a good guy if he is knowingly helping you commit adultery? think about that.

    Answer by 3xangel at 7:12 PM on Jun. 26, 2010

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