SIL keeps inviting me and my SO (her bro) and our daughter to parties and stuff like family get togethers... tomorrow is a bday party for our niece.
Last time we went to their moms, his cousin and his aunt and a few other people attacked me started talking sh*t to me and my SO stood up for me and it was a HUGEEEEEEE problem. there also is his SIL who no one gets a long with and she'll be there too.
we'd love to go and spend time with our niece, however with these people there, thers bound to be a confrontation by them. We'd rather save the argument the frustration and problems than to just go allow it to happen and have that happen at our nieces bday party.
His sister is mad we won't go.
And when this happened last time, everyone acted like it was our fault when they were the ones that came up to me and started arguing i just got up and walked away from it all and it still seemed to be our fault.
What would you do?
Answer by chica679 at 10:48 PM on Jun. 25, 2010
Answer by Cindy18 at 6:38 PM on Jun. 25, 2010
I would recommend visiting this group and checking out what they have to say about IL's and FOO (Family of Origin). They are experienced and honest about what they think. If they think you are contributing they will tell you so, usually in a constructive manner. If they think it's all the IL's, they can give you pointers of how to handle family get together situations so as to avoid confrontation, or at least to keep it at a minimum. Good luck!
Answer by QuinnMae at 6:51 PM on Jun. 25, 2010
Answer by symle456 at 6:36 PM on Jun. 25, 2010
Answer by mom2aspclboy at 6:52 PM on Jun. 25, 2010
Answer by RyansMom001 at 9:14 PM on Jun. 25, 2010