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sex life...

we've been married for five years now and i probably can count how many times i've come whenever we did it...i keep telling him that i like to make out or him caressing me but because he's tired from work, he just want to get into action so i end up not coming at all. what would you recommend for me to do to come everytime we do it?

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Asked by Gudwifey at 7:51 PM on Jun. 25, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I don't know. Maybe try arousing yourself before hand? Maybe you can start yourself off and let him finish.

    Answer by Mommy2mj at 7:57 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • don't let him finish until you do--he'll get the hint. We are all tired...he's being selfish. You can try talking to him in a non-confrontational way...I've also tried to set the "mood"-most women need some warm-up time....candles, music...guys don't always understand this. There are some really good lubricants for women now too that may help speed things along for you. Bottom line, he needs to understand that you deserve some luvin too and you need him to show you some care and attention. If that doesn't work, a good whack in the head might help-it'll at least make you feel

    Answer by connorsmom1970 at 7:58 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • 1. More foreplay. Don't be wiling to just get into, unless you are THAT into it.. lol If you orgasm at least once before intercourse itself starts: you get yours.. lol.... and you're more likely to orgam once intercourse starts due to blood engorgement and stimluation.

    2. Clitoral stimulation during intercourse. Most women can not orgasm without clitoral &/or g-spot stimulation.. The majority of women can not orgasm from penetration alone because the inside of the vagina really doesn't have that many nerve endings. Just the main clusters in the clit, the g-spot and some women will have a small cluster on their vaginal wall somewhere.

    3. If you need more emotionaly stimulus to get turned on.. Initiate more of that. You act in the manner that you want to be treated. If you want to be romanced. Romance.. If you want to be flirty.. Flirt... KWIM...


    Answer by pixie_trix at 7:59 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • Foreplay, talk to him. SHOW him what you like.

    Answer by hobbitswife04 at 8:05 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • i guess the real key is to talk to him. but i have already talked to him about this before like few times and he still forget about don't understand why they don't get us women. but thank you all for the advice.

    Comment by Gudwifey (original poster) at 8:12 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • You have to remember. Most men will never view sexual stimulation or pleasure in the same way a woman does. They just can't do it. Male sexual stimulation, male sexaul fulfillment, hell even the sexual chemical/hormonal/physical make ups are totally different.. So really.. They can't understand where we are coming from most of the time. That's why we must guide them, teach them, show them the way.. lol I had a good friend tell me once "Great lovers aren't born.. They are made." she explained to me that a Great lover, had a great teacher somewhere along the way. A woman who taught them how to please and pleasure a woman, and learn how to adapt/adjust to different women's needs and wants.

    Guide and teach your man if he isn't doing it for you.. If you haven't.. Show him what you want. Teach him what touches feel good. What positions you like..ect.. Be very very verbal in expressing your pleasure and when it's not ok.

    Answer by pixie_trix at 8:19 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • thank you pixie trix i love your suggestion. i am a very conservative woman and you made me think that i am gonna get what i want if i show him what i want. thanks so much...

    Comment by Gudwifey (original poster) at 8:43 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • Tell him blank, blank wht you want and don't leave the bedroom till you get it... lol' The other ladies had some great advice good luck...

    Answer by Judmr at 9:25 AM on Jun. 26, 2010

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